Friend

The Story of the 12 Roses

July 25, 2016
12 Red Roses

I have known Serge Benhayon personally for nearly 8 years. In that time I have known him as a student of Universal Medicine. I have done work for him as a builder, and am blessed to say that I have also known him as my friend. My wife and I have shared dinner at his table with his family, and on the odd occasion I have had the opportunity to share a surfing session with him and his two sons.

One could say that I am well placed to be able to vouch for the quality of the man that is Serge Benhayon.

However, to call him my friend is not a claim that I can make in isolation, for in truth there are many hundreds of people I know would say the same, and indeed to make such a claim would actually do a disservice to all that Serge Benhayon is and represents. Indeed I am sure that there are many who have not had the opportunity nor circumstance to know him for as long as I, who none-the-less, most likely know him just as well.

That is the most beauty-full thing I can say about Serge as a friend. Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. In short, he lets you in. There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do. What you see is what you get. From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.

That is why so many people will claim to know Serge Benhayon as their friend, for that he undoubtedly is. He is the type of friend who loves you so dearly that he is not afraid to tread on your toes in order to re-awaken you to your own grandeur. He is the type of friend who worries not what you may think of him in return. He is the type of friend who lays not one ounce of judgment for the choices you may make in life, whatever choices they may be or may have been.

Yet neither does he pander, sympathise, nor empathise; strange as that may seem. What he does bring is understanding about whatever situation you may find yourself in, and that is a gift like no other. For we all crave more than anything to be met; to be seen, to be acknowledged for who we truly are. In a world that defines us purely by what we do and who we need to become, that is a rare thing indeed, and such a friendship, no matter how transient, is worth treasuring for all of time.

The fact is when Serge sees you, he sees you as his total equal. In that equal-ness, he recognises that you have the strength and inner wisdom also to deal with what life is showing you. He recognises that his wisdom is your wisdom, that his love is your love, that his glory is your glory also, should you so wish to claim it so.

The loveliest thing I have to say about Serge is that the friendship he offers is not done in isolation. For what he offers is the opportunity to experience the same way of being in all of one’s relationships – to experience the same love, the same open-ness, the same trust, and the same intimacy that you experience with him – with all.

Not so long ago I was going through a difficult situation in my life, and I rang Serge one morning. He answered the call, and listened to me attentively with all the care and time in the world – offering little in the way of advice, or comment, but at the same time communicating complete understanding. It was what I needed in that moment, to know that I was still OK.

Later that morning, I found out that Serge had only just come out of hospital having had a septoplasty (surgery to correct a deviated septum). I was deeply touched. Here was a man who had the divine right to take time to rest and recover in solitude, and here he was offering me his ear and complete undivided attention. The next day I was passing by his house for work, and I stopped over to drop off a dozen red roses to show my appreciation. His wife Miranda answered the door. I said I did not want to interrupt, but she insisted I come in to hand them to him personally.

The most exquisite thing was that there was no discomfort in that moment that we shared. He accepted the flowers as though it was the most natural thing in the world for another man to do. We hugged tenderly and shared a few words. That was it.

Now there is something deeply empowering – especially as a man – about being able to be open and tender with another man that has nothing to do with sexuality, but rather is about a pure connection that transcends gender, that transcends our physicality as we know it. As a man, it is wonderfully freeing to be met with such intimacy, for it gives us permission to drop our guard, to stop protecting ourselves, and to open ourselves once again to be able to feel the world in all its ugliness, in all its splendour, and know that we will be OK.

It was not the first time I have been met with such grace by Serge Benhayon. In truth it is the only way I have ever known him to be. Like many thousands of others, I am blessed to have known him personally, and the greatest appreciation that I can show is to ensure that in turn I show the same love in all of my other relationships – for that in essence is the message that Serge Benhayon, above all others, has taught me – that we are all in essence born of the one and same true love. 

Thank you dear friend.

With love, Adam Warburton

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239 Comments

  • Reply Michael Brown June 4, 2018 at 5:28 am

    What a friend to have in a day and age where loyalty, integrity and trust are extremely rare to come by.

  • Reply Danna Elmalah May 19, 2018 at 5:09 am

    That is gorgeous Adam, thank you.. you inspire the world to stand in power and appreciation of what is love and how important it is that we notice those things and build from them further in our daily lives. For why not treasure the love of God, every day?

  • Reply Shami May 2, 2018 at 3:03 pm

    There is a beautiful line at the beginning of this piece about not making a claim to friendship with Serge Benhayon in isolation. And it is beautiful because it shows the lack of need in you to have ownership of divinity, that you understand that it is for everyone equally to hold and to cherish, just as Serge Benhayon does himself. You show us in this article that divinity is naturally within us all.

  • Reply Joseph Barker May 1, 2018 at 4:50 pm

    The greatest asset in friendship is letting other people see your divinity. Like an open book written by God, they can read you easily and begun to see they too share this Love. Totally opposite to the hard work we think life to be, all this requires is transparency – no apology is required. Thank you for the inspiration Adam and Serge Benhayon with the way that you live.

  • Reply Tricia Nicholson April 29, 2018 at 5:28 pm

    A beautiful sharing and story of true friendship and the amazing inspiration this is for all. The beauty and love of Serge Benhayon and the inspiration he offers to the world for one another to appreciate and love is astounding very real and deeply beautiful and the red roses and the sharing of these is all part of this blessing offered to us from Heaven.

  • Reply Danna Elmalah April 24, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    So beautifully true Adam, for it shows us that there is a grand love that is us. The depth of appreciation here shared is seldom found and or lived. I appreciate deeply your sharing as it supportive. It is loving and even though your writing is about Serge Benhayon, I feel the love in me. As you say, this can only be, because we are all from the same love.

  • Reply Susie W April 19, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    This is a gorgeous story Adam. It really highlights what it’s like to live for the ALL and maintain the same quality of love in every moment, as well as how this touches people.

  • Reply Stefanie Henn March 30, 2018 at 10:51 pm

    The love that Serge Benhayon expresses in his every moves is out of this world. I experienced all the qualities you recited in the same way. I only wasn’t surfing with him 😀 For me he is a beacon in the dark that enlightens all the other beacons that forgot that they are in fact the same bright light.

  • Reply Ariana Ray March 30, 2018 at 10:12 pm

    ‘Like many thousands of others, I am blessed to have known him personally, and the greatest appreciation that I can show is to ensure that in turn I show the same love in all of my other relationships.’ This is pure gold Adam, and I feel the same, that it’s my role to treat everyone I meet with the same love. I have a way to go, but am learning this.The inspiration Serge offers all is from his loving holding of all equally, and that is pure beauty.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 25, 2018 at 12:43 am

    “From the moment you look Serge Benhayon in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.” Being received with such unequivocal love, acceptance and equality by someone who you can sense has a deep settlement with themselves, their purpose in life and their place in the Universe, is deeply supportive and confirming. It inspires you to also open up and express more of your own grandness. This is such a gorgeous reflection and example of how we can each so fundamentally support and inspire one another.

  • Reply Rebecca March 25, 2018 at 12:02 am

    This tenderness and sensitivity in men is such a treasure than should be nurtured more

  • Reply Adele Leung March 23, 2018 at 10:55 am

    Thank you Adam. This openness man to man I have witnessed in men close to me, with other men, no protection and no walls. It is a beautiful reminder of how lovely this truly is.

    • Reply Stefanie Henn March 30, 2018 at 10:53 pm

      And men do that very well, when they allow that. It is so beautiful to witness and in the same time so natural, when two men show their affection non- sexually in an open and tender way.

  • Reply Richard Mills March 20, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    Being ‘met with such grace’ is a wonderful description of how it is to meet Serge. There is something deeply healing in being met for who we truly are. It feels like it doesn’t matter what we have done in the past, or where we are at now, we are held in the grace of loving awareness and offered the opportunity to start again, refreshed and renewed. To me this is true of the Love of God, a beholding love that knows who we truly are and Serge embodies and lives His Love.

  • Reply Richard Mills March 19, 2018 at 11:18 pm

    This ‘equal-ness’ is astonishingly powerful. We believe that power is born of superiority but there is true power in equal-ness – and it is something Serge Benhayon lives in absoluteness.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 26, 2018 at 3:25 am

      When someone chooses to connect to the grandness of the love within them, and to also relate to you in the recognition of that same essence within you, there is no limits to the power and inspiration that can unfold between you.

  • Reply Nico van Haastrecht March 19, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    No matter what happens to us or how deep we think we have been hurt, Serge will always will let us to feel that we are OK and are equipped and have the strength and power to face any situation that comes to us in our daily lives.

  • Reply Nico van Haastrecht March 19, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    Serge Benhayon will never tell you what to do or what to choose, he only reminds you of the grandness you are, equally to him.

  • Reply Michael Brown March 18, 2018 at 2:39 pm

    “Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. In short, he lets you in.” I can relate to this too. Serge not once treated me as a stranger or unfamiliar, but opened up his life to me. A real role model for me.

  • Reply Leigh Matson March 18, 2018 at 2:55 am

    It’s really beautiful to read and see men expressing so tenderly towards each other. A natural affection and love without any sexual tones. Years ago I only knew Serge being able to do this and today I now have many men in my life who are like this with each other and it’s super sweet to witness.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 17, 2018 at 2:00 am

    It is so very true that Serge Benhayon never panders, sympathises nor empathises. Compared to what he does offer, those qualities are like an insult. He holds you in the absolute equalness, love and appreciation of the divine Son of God that you are. He sees through everything you might have done or not done and any circumstance you may now be finding yourself faced with, and with the deepest smile in his eyes lets you know that he sees the beauty within you and knows the wisdom that you hold.

  • Reply Ariana Ray March 16, 2018 at 7:38 pm

    To show appreciation of the gorgeousness of Serge Benhayon is a great way to express, with 1, 12 or 100 roses, the man is pure gold and worth beyond price.

    • Reply Nico van Haastrecht March 19, 2018 at 2:28 pm

      Indeed Ariana, Serge Benhayon is pure gold and the value of what he brings is priceless as it is universal and therefore not of this earth in which we tend to put a price on everything we perceive of any value to us, a typical human behaviour.

  • Reply Meg March 16, 2018 at 4:00 pm

    I love this example of Serge Benhayon’s incredible approach to life and people – this is the man I’ve always seen and observed – always ready and willing to serve another and to help and support you no matter what – it’s so incredibly rare.

  • Reply Joseph Barker March 16, 2018 at 9:01 am

    Beautiful – thank you Adam. We think relationships are to be worked at by visiting or spending time with others, but what you and Serge Benhayon show is it’s the quality in us that we are to go deeper with, then everyone is held in this beauty of love whether we speak at length or not.

  • Reply Lieke Campbell March 16, 2018 at 5:49 am

    You are an inspiration Adam gorgeous to read.

  • Reply Alison Valentine March 12, 2018 at 4:01 pm

    I love coming back to read your blog Adam, there is such love and appreciation in your words and your blog is so inspiring on so many levels. The depth of your appreciation for Serge, Serge’s absolute commitment to humanity in a very humble and graceful way,. What you convey is when we get ourselves out of the way we can really see and appreciate the beauty that is all around us

  • Reply Carolien Braakenburg March 5, 2018 at 2:22 am

    “In short he lets you in” This is not only true but it is the secret if there was one to the enormous ability of Serge to love and behold, to meet everyone equally and see them for who they are in essence. There is no protection, expactiaion or picture that get’s in the way. He meets you…all the way.

  • Reply Steve Matson March 2, 2018 at 3:19 pm

    When I first met Serge Benhayon, 12 years ago, it was the first time I had ever meet someone that offered all of his self to everyone equally and required nothing in return. In this time the only thing that changed is there is a whole lot more of us learning to live the same way.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad March 1, 2018 at 3:12 pm

    Much tenderness is expressed in your article and the gesture of the 12 roses as well as the grace they were received with, is deeply touching. The mundane becomes divine and what is divine becomes the new normal; no airs and graces, no expectations, no ulterior motives. Such beauty is wonder-full to behold.

  • Reply Monica Gillooly February 28, 2018 at 3:17 pm

    How gorgeous to feel the shared tenderness of men and the grace of a true friendship.

  • Reply Rebecca February 16, 2018 at 5:45 pm

    It is amazing the love lived by Serge Benhayon and his family. I have come to realise what I feel the difference is between this love, true love, and the emotional love many are used to and often strive for. Serge and his family love every, equally. No one more and no one less, everyone is held equal in that love, and so you cannot delineate yourself, separate yourself and be identified by the love because it is no more directed at you than another energetically, although the physical outplay may be different – this love asks us to take our places as part of the whole. But in emotional love, in attachments and needs and comforts, we can define ourselves, the emotion is directed at us specifically and so we can be identified by it – it keeps us individual.

  • Reply HM February 16, 2018 at 1:48 am

    Serge Benhayon certainly does let you in – he is open, loving and consistent. It has been my observation that he is this with so many people, and Adam this sharing is another example of how he is with people and it is to be truly appreciated. That one man can care so deeply about humanity.

  • Reply Rik Connors January 22, 2018 at 10:46 pm

    There is a few things Adam I could relate to and comment on about this glorious man Serge Benhayon however, what I feel strongly about is Serge’s depth of understanding. On most occasions I have interacted with Serge in a distressed manner, including the most traumatic times of my life (there has been a couple).
    One event he honoured me to the truth and love I am where I could honestly say I could not feel one honouring thing about myself except I could see Serge for help – I was in the worst state of my life and was not able to trust my closest friend, wife at the time and my sister – I trusted no one. This was rock bottom for me and due to Serge and his wife Miranda Benhayon’s understanding, no judgement, and meeting me for who I truly was, I was able to lift myself out of a big mess. I have an amazing stable lovingly solid life now due to Serge and Miranda Benhayon. Serge is a man you can trust.

  • Reply Rebecca January 21, 2018 at 7:35 pm

    I know no one else who gives so freely his time and support, tireless in his love for others

  • Reply Fiona Pierce January 11, 2018 at 4:01 am

    A deeply touching account of a true friendship, thank you Adam for the genuine openness and intimacy you have shared this with. It is truly inspiring to be met with the transparency, openness and love that Serge Benhayon offers unconditionally so, it reminds me of our innate nature to bring that quality in all our relationships.

  • Reply fiona lotherington January 5, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    There is something extremely touching about what you have shared Adam. You have followed your feelings and not allowed the blokey stereotypes in society to sway you. We need more men like you so all men feel able to express their love and appreciation without feeling they will be judged or criticised.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh February 5, 2018 at 3:34 am

      I was also deeply touched by this blog and know that there are many men who crave closer and more supportive relationship with other men, and the best they can so far imagine is hanging out in the pub and either attending or speaking about sports. Such men as Serge Benhayon and Adam Warburton are wonderful examples of what is very possible in relationship between men. I agree that expression such as this blog is gold and more would be hugely supportive.

  • Reply Rebecca January 1, 2018 at 6:40 pm

    I love coming back to this story because there is such beauty in a tender and truly loving gesture. I remember a man carrying a flower all the way home to the UK from abroad in his pocket to give to a friend because it had the most beautiful smell. It was such an innocent, sweet and deeply touching gesture of love from one man to their friend and it moved everyone who heard about it.

  • Reply Elizabeth Dolan January 1, 2018 at 8:46 am

    Adam, your story is a blessing for us all. To me these are the types of stories that we ought to be telling our children at night before they go to sleep, the story of a man who touches another man’s heart so deeply that he drops off a dozen roses on his way to work to say thanks. Let’s make love our everyday.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 6, 2018 at 1:06 am

      Absolutely Elizabeth. I know many bedtime stories that do very little to truly inspire and develop an awareness of life. But real life stories such as how one person deeply touches the heart of another is hugely inspiring and joyful, and even more precious when it supports to break down limitations that reduce society and people.

  • Reply Chan Ly January 1, 2018 at 7:03 am

    Wow Adam, this is gorgeous. I am deeply touched by your beautiful expression and enormous appreciation for Serge Benhayon. Your appreciation and love for Serge is exquisite and an awesome example of what trust, love, tenderness and support feels like in true friendship.

  • Reply rosanna bianchini December 31, 2017 at 6:01 pm

    “I am sure that there are many who have not had the opportunity nor circumstance to know him for as long as I, who none-the-less, most likely know him just as well.” I would agree with you Adam, I live across the other side of the world and get to see Serge when he’s in the UK and maybe speak with him just a few times a year, yet the distance and infrequency of our conversation does not diminish the connection we have one iota. I know absolutely that our connection is deep, constant and for ever.

  • Reply Carola Woods December 31, 2017 at 7:05 am

    Serge Benhayon is a gift to us all, to this world, in the way he lives, presents and shares of the love that represents all that we are. Through this man we can see that it is possible to live the absoluteness of who we are, and if we chose to reclaim this way for ourselves we too are equally a gift unto this world, through the lives we live.

  • Reply Lucinda Bathurst December 30, 2017 at 6:24 pm

    Your words have touched me deeply Adam thank-you for sharing the purity, tenderness and might of this dear friendship, indeed its ripple can be felt.

  • Reply Rebecca December 28, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    This is so deeply beautiful – how much we have made tenderness that is natural to a man to be something weak, and yet it is so incredibly powerful and can melt the heart.

  • Reply Mary-Louise Myers December 28, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    How many men would buy another man a dozen red roses? (of course not including gay relationships) Not many I would imagine. This is a beautiful expression of love between two men and super inspirational and totally melted my heart with your tenderness.

  • Reply Liane Mandalis December 28, 2017 at 5:49 am

    “From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.”

    In a world where we lace our interactions with each other with a whole host of investments and need, this is by far the most remarkable quality I have felt in Serge Benhayon. A love with no conditions is truly beholding and asks nothing of us but rather calls us to return to the one and same true love that lives and breathes within us all.

    Thank you Adam for these very beautiful and honouring words about a man who is deeply loved for the love that he is/we all are.

  • Reply rosanna bianchini December 26, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    Not only is Serge “the type of friend who loves you so dearly that he is not afraid to tread on your toes in order to re-awaken you to your own grandeur”, he is also the type of friend that loves you more than you love yourself, imagine that, just there loving you all the way, because of his great love.

  • Reply Johanne December 26, 2017 at 11:16 am

    A deeply touching testimonial of Serge Benhayon – commandingly authentic, a realness that says it as it is… you can’t help but feel the absolute equal quality and exquisite essence of both Serge Benhayon and Adam Warburton. Thank you for sharing.

  • Reply Carmel Reid December 26, 2017 at 7:53 am

    ‘What he does bring is understanding about whatever situation you may find yourself in, and that is a gift like no other.’ the fact that as you say he brings wisdom knowing we have access to the same wisdom, what he offers is the way for us to see more clearly what is going on in the world and in our bodies. He helps us to understand how our choices affect everything and by example of the way he lives he is constantly showing us there is another way. All of this is presented in absolute equality.

  • Reply Sue Queenborough December 25, 2017 at 5:28 pm

    Serge makes everyone he meets to feel special and that they are, or could be, a friend. A truly unique yet ordinary man. A powerful reflection for how we could all be, depending on our choices….

  • Reply Carolien Braakenburg December 25, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Beautiful Adam and yes, Serge is a friend to many as he is so open, transparent and generous in sharing all that he is. This is a marking of true friendship, not how much one does for another, or how safe we can be with another. This is what is on offer with him all of the time, for every single person he meets. The only ‘condition’ to this friendship be is for us to say yes to it.

  • Reply Elaine Arthey December 22, 2017 at 6:32 pm

    For men to feel free to express their love and appreciation for other men in an innocent gesture like this is definitely not the norm in our society so thank you for not only following your impulse but also for sharing this account of your relationship and showing how easy it is to “break the mould” and demonstrate a truth and love that is pure.

  • Reply Michael Brown December 11, 2017 at 1:12 am

    Love your expression Adam, especially here in adoration and appreciation of Serge.

  • Reply Adele Leung December 5, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    I always have tears in my eyes when men connect with men so openly and without judgement, simply sharing their tenderness and honesty as men. This feels so true and yet so completely out of the norm from what the world is today or how men think they have to act in the world. I have men around me who fully open themselves with each other and this is a true blessing for me and the world.

    • Reply Richard Mills March 20, 2018 at 3:45 pm

      When the need to protect and defend falls away, a light comes on in a man that says ‘there is another way’ – a way of love, a way of tenderness and a way of transparency. Witnessing this is surely worthy of a few ‘teary’ eyes.

  • Reply Nico van Haastrecht December 1, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    The point you raise here Adam, that being intimate with another man is so freeing and that as men in that openness we can let our guard down, the guard we normally all walk with to protect that delicacy all men equally hold within, is an important aspect for men to learn that it is possible and actually our natural way of being.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh November 30, 2017 at 1:41 am

    “It was not the first time I have been met with such grace by Serge Benhayon. In truth it is the only way I have ever known him to be.” I can echo that through and through. A wonderful inspiring example for all of us to keep deepening the level of love and tenderness in our every move, how open we are and the depth of our honouring of one another.

  • Reply Meg November 29, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    I love your point about the way Serge Benhayon treats you immediately makes you feel like a friend, his immediate care, focus and integrity puts you at ease straight away and whenever you speak to him it’s like speaking with an old friend, and I’ve seen this happen with everyone he speaks to.

  • Reply Michael Goodhart November 26, 2017 at 6:11 am

    This is such a great example of how men are naturally super sensitive and the way Adam expressed his appreciation for Serge with the roses is truly courageous, as this unfortunately is not yet the norm in our current society. I also loved the way Serge responded after being given the flowers as if it was no big deal, thus allowing Adam’s gesture to be considered as normal as a handshake.

    • Reply Nico van Haastrecht December 1, 2017 at 1:20 pm

      Indeed Michael, actually Serge is showing us the way how to be a true man in this world that has other demands on how men should be. A society that prefers to train their boys and men to be the soldiers to protect the country for anything they are in fear of and with that demand do not allow men to be the delicate and tender men men naturally are.

    • Reply Chan Ly January 1, 2018 at 7:11 am

      Adam has steped out of the norm and embraced love in full. His expression is a blessing to recieve and I can feel the tenderness, love and appreciation emanating through and through.

  • Reply jennym November 24, 2017 at 8:22 pm

    It is a rare individual who is completely open to all and treats each person with the same decency, respect and allowing. But this too is my experience of Serge Benhayon in his relationships with everyone.

    • Reply Rachel Murtagh November 25, 2017 at 9:29 pm

      I agree JennyM it is a rare thing indeed for one person to treat all others with the same respect, openness, holding and understanding. I have never observed Serge Benhayon to judge anyone, but only to show consideration, care and love. He is a true inspiration.

  • Reply Heather Pope November 22, 2017 at 8:21 am

    Serge Benhayon, just by his pure presence and the way he naturally is with people around him, sets a new way of what it means to be a man in this world. His openness, his obvious care and his tenderness with himself and all others shows there is another way of living. One that inspires a generation of men and their sons to live as themselves, and not some macho version of what men are supposed to be according to our society.

  • Reply HM November 15, 2017 at 4:55 am

    What a gorgeous story of 2 men that tells a story of how men can let people in. We put an ideal on men – but men have feelings, just as women do, and Serge Benhayon is one such man who is deeply tender. And this story of giving and receiving flowers is so symbolic that men can have a deeply intimate relationship.

  • Reply Alison Valentine November 13, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Such tenderness expressed between two men is exquisite to feel and beautiful to read Adam .Appreciation of each other expressed in the most sensitive and delicate of ways.

  • Reply Leigh Matson November 11, 2017 at 3:10 am

    I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to read this without a tear welling up, such tenderness of a man expressing his love for another man without one iota of sexual energy. It’s really beautiful.

  • Reply Christoph Schnelle November 5, 2017 at 7:32 am

    To express love to another man seems to be harder than for a woman to express love to another woman.

  • Reply Melinda Knights November 1, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    Adam it’s very true that Serge inspires us to live and share the same love he does. The open, consistent, unconditional, and unwavering love Serge shares equally with all has restored love back to its true meaning for many, as opposed to the selective, protected, emotional love that we know so well and that permeates this world. What I have learned from Serge is this grandness of love is who we are in our true essence, so expressing it equally to all is a natural part of living who we truly are.

  • Reply Willem Plandsoen October 28, 2017 at 7:15 am

    Inspiring to read how two men can interact together and share intimacy.

  • Reply Christoph Schnelle October 25, 2017 at 7:28 am

    This is very true. A very ordinary interaction and it leaves a deep impression.

  • Reply Lucy Dahill October 25, 2017 at 4:36 am

    So true, we think that there are ways of appreciating men and another way for women, when in truth we simply shouldn’t think at all!!! If we honoured our impulses the level of love we would live would be magical. Not all soft and cuddly because, as you share, love is not afraid to tread on your toes if that is needed, but magical because it would open us up to the enormity of what there is to live that is beyond the physical we place such importance on.

  • Reply Willem Plandsoen October 22, 2017 at 5:28 am

    I loved rereading this story. Every line is showing how Serge Benhayon treats every body as an equal, as a friend if we choose to take his offer. And I feel that you are living what Serge is offering you as an example.

  • Reply HM October 20, 2017 at 6:37 am

    So gorgeous Adam to hear that a relationship between 2 men can be non-sexual, can be intimate and can transcend gender. How rare this is. And I just love the depth of appreciation there is here. And whats more, your learning from this that you can have this quality of relationship with all that you meet. I certainly feel this from you and the warmth you bring to so many.

  • Reply Alison Valentine October 11, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    Adam I love everything you say about Serge Benhayon he truly is all that you so beautifully describe. “He is the type of friend who loves you so dearly that he is not afraid to tread on your toes in order to re-awaken you to your own grandeur. He is the type of friend who worries not what you may think of him in return. He is the type of friend who lays not one ounce of judgment for the choices you may make in life, whatever choices they may be or may have been.” Whether you meet Serge for the first time or have known him for years this is the person you meet, and he inspires all to be this way too.

  • Reply Willem Plandsoen October 5, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    Beautiful and honest way to express your friendship to him, Adam. It is indeed the true way of how also men, should be with another. Letting go of all what society expects of us as men.

  • Reply Stephen Gammack October 3, 2017 at 10:30 am

    One day we will move past our gender conditioning and see it as natural for men to express to one another with deep care and affection. It is something that at present is most frightening to men, but really when you scratch below the surface, it is a deeply natural and affirming act of who we as men are, gentle, kind and caring. It calls to mind photos I saw of men in the early 20th Century, who were having shown together in all manner of poses that would now be considered effeminate, it was men in friendship and not afraid to show it, so perhaps for now we are just going through a period where we are reassured falsely by a toughness that keeps the world at bay but does nothing in truth to enhance our being as the naturally open men we can be.

    • Reply Melinda Knights November 1, 2017 at 12:41 pm

      Stephen I have also viewed the photos you mention of men in the early 20th century, they were extremely affectionate with each other and it highlighted to me how limited and reduced we can be by images and beliefs, instead of simply expressing as we naturally feel to. Adam’s gift of roses to Serge is a perfect example of this, outside of the boundaries of the current limiting societal expectations but a beautiful expression of love and appreciation. Love really needs no instructions. The men in the photo reminded of how boys naturally express their affection before they are imposed upon to change.

  • Reply Sylvia October 3, 2017 at 3:58 am

    Thank you Adam for reflecting with your words so much the depths and simplicity which Serge brings to the world.
    How to describe a man which love is limitless for all equal.

  • Reply Otto Bathurst October 2, 2017 at 12:46 am

    A divine account of true appreciation. Serge Benhayon has never not been there for me and he is the greatest and truest friend that I have ever had.

  • Reply Rachel Murtagh September 30, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    Adam, I find your sharing deeply touching with every read. The inspiration to arise to the same level of love that you both share is enormous. Having felt it and acknowledged it, what else is left except to live it?

  • Reply Rebecca Wingrave September 28, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    Adam, this is really interesting; ‘he lets you in. There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do’, I felt yesterday in an online meeting how when I saw my friends face on the screen I lit up and had a huge loving smile on my face and was very warm and open with her, she is not normally at this meeting and I do not normally bring this level of warmth and openness and love, this was interesting to feel how I change myself depending on who I am with and how close I am to them, rather then bringing this openness and love to everyone equally.

    • Reply Melinda Knights November 1, 2017 at 12:34 pm

      Thank you Rebecca for your honesty here, it’s interesting to observe ourselves and how we are with love. I recently noticed that with certain people it can be conditional on what they do or don’t do (my expectations etc). I felt quite surprised when I felt this, it was like an on off switch, it can show how we still view love as not just conditional but part of a reward system, a “doing” instead of a state of being.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 28, 2017 at 12:22 am

    I just love how Serge Benhayon has inspired so many men to not only claim back the depth of care, beauty and tenderness within themselves, but also to recognise and connect to the same qualities in other men. Witnessing a group of men relate so openly and lovingly with one another makes my heart sing.

  • Reply Simon Williams September 25, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Absolutely beautiful Adam, reading this I can feel the love I feel well up in me. In particular your comment about the responsibility this passes on to us: ‘the greatest appreciation that I can show is to ensure that in turn I show the same love in all of my other relationships’.

  • Reply Michael Brown September 24, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    “There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do.” – This is so true. I did not speak to nor see Serge for many years and when I met him again he was just as open with me as he’d ever been. No hesitation or doubt. Just an open heart.

  • Reply Heather Pope September 24, 2017 at 3:26 am

    Connection with another is not related to gender, or sexual intimacy, or race, or religion. Connection is possible between any two people in the world, and is our natural state.

  • Reply Jennifer Smith September 22, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    There is so much love in this blog. I just adore that a man is writing about another man in this way, not to mention delivering roses to say thank you. The most beautiful thing is that it is the most natural way for men to be together. Generous, tender, open and truly caring.

  • Reply Samantha Davidson September 22, 2017 at 6:08 am

    I felt this upon meeting Serge Benhayon…”From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.” It is a lived quality of love, openness and consistency that I see Serge Benhayon live that has really inspired me and continues to every day.

  • Reply Jill Steiner September 20, 2017 at 7:25 am

    What a gorgeous appreciation for and a beautiful summing up of the exquisite qualities of love Serge brings to each and everyone without exception. “From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same. ” from my first meeting with Serge I knew I had come home, home to my own heart to my own love, such is the gift he brings to all.

  • Reply Ingrid Ward September 17, 2017 at 4:45 am

    “he is not afraid to tread on your toes in order to re-awaken you to your own grandeur”. These words had me smiling in recollection of the times Serge has ‘tread gently on my toes’, not to cause me pain, although there was always some squirming involved, but to offer me the opportunity to wake up to the amazing person that I am. I deeply appreciate that Serge never holds back the truth and then never judges what we do with it; that is always our choice to make.

  • Reply Heather Pope September 17, 2017 at 4:30 am

    A friend who is willing to say it how it is, to pull me up, to quietly prompt me to look at something is more valuable than diamonds. Such is the friend Serge Benhayon is.

  • Reply Samantha September 16, 2017 at 5:27 pm

    Adam Rereading this today has brought tears to my eyes, feeling the love shared and felt between you both is exquisite. The delicateness and depth of appreciation for each other is palpable.How blessed are we when we have true friendship.

  • Reply kev mchardy September 11, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    Such a beautiful piece of appreciation Adam, for a true friend to all. Serge reawakens in us all what true friendship is about.

  • Reply Shami September 10, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    The beauty here in this piece is not only the love from Serge Benhayon that we can clearly see, but also the appreciation from You, Adam. As it is one thing to be able to see love and another thing altogether to choose to accept it and to show so much heart-felt appreciation for it. This shows to me that you know this love to be who you are too, that it is not exclusive to only Serge or his family. You know that you are a part of this love being expressed on earth, which is a very splendid thing in itself.

  • Reply Lieke Campbell September 9, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    I can imagine it must be so beautiful for a man to be able to show tenderness and let down your guard. Actually every moment when we are truly met for who we are we just let go and with much joy be ourselves and this is our true way to live. These moments offer us a marker of how we can live everyday if we make the true choices.

  • Reply fiona lotherington September 6, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    Beautiful to read Adam. So true that the best we can do when we receive such unconditional love is to live it and share it ourselves.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 5, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    It is very touching reading this story and I was struck with the profoundness of what is expressed. I have recently been privy to witnessing the deepening relationships between men expressing their tenderness, sensitivity and deeply caring nature in their friendship with one another. This has been immensely joyful, healing, and inspiring, prompting me to look more deeper in my own relationships with men and women.

    I too as a woman very much appreciate it when such a space is available between me and a man, where there is no awkwardness and there are no misinterpretation of the loving and honouring expressions. There is the possibility for absolute joy and magic when as you say ‘ it transcends gender and our physicality as we know it’ and each of us are able to fully express all that we are in each moment.

  • Reply Mary-Louise Myers September 4, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    This is a beautiful, deeply honouring blog of your relationship with Serge Benhayon and shows us all what is possible if we open to giving and receiving love unashamedly. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Reply Annelies van Haastrecht September 4, 2017 at 2:27 am

    A beautiful testimonial Adam, such a grace and power in your words. To read about the intimacy between two men touched me deeply. And no doubt about it that I share your appreciation for Serge Benhayon, to know this man personally has changed my life in learning to live love once again. I feel blessed in every way.

  • Reply Rebecca Wingrave September 3, 2017 at 3:09 pm

    Adam, this is very beautiful to read; ‘From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.’ it makes me realise that so often in society we only open our hearts if another does, it feels very gorgeous to be open hearted and loving with all as a natural way of being and to not have expectations of how others ‘should’ be.

  • Reply Shirley-Ann Walters September 2, 2017 at 5:00 am

    I love the ‘re-imprinting’ you might say of giving red roses to someone of your own gender, man to man, and brealking the mould on the traditions associated with them.

  • Reply Joshua Campbell September 2, 2017 at 12:37 am

    Super Gorgeous Adam. The amazing thing about Serge (of the many amazing things that describe him) is how utterly normal he is. He is not necessarily changing the world in big monumental physical feats per se, but simply through the little things such as simply listening to you intently with all the time in the world. How often do we give each other such space and how different would the world be with this as a common reality?

  • Reply Gill Randall September 1, 2017 at 3:31 pm

    For two grown men to share such intimacy, this gives a beautiful reflection to others. There is an openness and understanding offered from Serge Benhayon that fosters this, when we are open to respond. This transparency with no holding back is very different from my past experience but I am learning to open up with examples like yours Adam.

  • Reply Richard Mills August 30, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    We may not feel we are worthy of being revered but Serge Benhayon makes it very clear that we are. It is true, he meets everyone with ‘reverence’ and this is because he knows and holds everyone in the awareness of who they/we truly are. What a glorious way to live and what a glorious reflection we are all offered by his lived way.

  • Reply Leonne August 30, 2017 at 8:11 am

    I am deeply touched by what you have shared. Thank you.

  • Reply Lucy Duffy August 30, 2017 at 5:54 am

    I am eternally blessed that Serge is a friend of mine too. The best way I know to thank him for all he has done for me and the rest of humanity, is to live the inspiration I feel and be as open, transparent and loving as I can be with everyone I know and meet – including myself.

  • Reply Julie Chung August 30, 2017 at 5:38 am

    A truly beautiful and deeply felt appreciation of Serge and what he brings for us all. In your sharing Adam, you leave us with this feeling of surrender and settledness which is your relationship with Serge and the absolute knowing that this is true love to the core.

  • Reply Shirley-Ann Walters August 29, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    A beautiful sharing thank you Adam, but not one that surprises me at all, for I understand how we all love him, and deeply share in your appreciation of how loving he is back, or maybe that should be the other way round as his deep love for us inspires us to be that love in return. A lovely inspired gesture with the roses, as natural as the roses themselves.

  • Reply Elodie Darwish August 29, 2017 at 4:58 am

    Amazing! I love the normality in which you offered Serge the bunch of flowers, roses no less. A sign of appreciation that wasn’t measured by what others might think. It was straight from the heart! Beautiful.

  • Reply Michael Brown August 23, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Your tenderness has touched me Adam, thank you for sharing this powerful story of how two men can be completely themselves with each other and the rest of the world.

  • Reply Matts Josefsson August 19, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    So beautiful Adam. I see that when I write this comment there are 123 more. I dearly hope that this piece has reached further than that. It’s a great testimony and a great medicine for what the world is facing right now. People dropping their guard and letting other people in, whether it be men or women.

  • Reply Amparo Lorente August 11, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    This is a really beautiful sharing about gratitude. Thank you Adam for showing us the exquisite delicateness of those moments, which I’m sure is the reflection of the way you live.

  • Reply Kehinde James July 28, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    Being open to express you love and appreciation in this way one man to another is simply beautiful.

  • Reply Kehinde James July 28, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    Being open to express you love and appreciation in this way one man to another is simply beautiful.

  • Reply Viktoria July 27, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    I have known Serge for just over a year now, the first time we met he welcomed me with open arms, as if we had known each other for centuries. Since then my life has changed in so many different ways, I have sought advice from him, I have gone to him with my problems and he has always responded with “you have everything within you to find the answer and work through it”. On a few occasions I have allowed myself to get distracted by things on the outside, what my family think, what friends may think, however when I let go of the doubt and focus on my life, everything is so clear and the works of Serge Benhayon are confirmed in the magic that they are.

    • Reply Leonne August 30, 2017 at 8:13 am

      So beautiful Viktoria. It is clear that Serge Benhayon does not need to provide answers, he provides a reflection of the grandness we are and that is more than enough.

  • Reply Kehinde James July 27, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    We learn from Serge Benhayon that we are all born equal: there’s no such thing as a ‘special’ or ‘best’ friend as this is exclusive and causes separation. From his example we extend our friendship equally to to all we meet, all humanity.

  • Reply Kehinde James July 27, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    I’m touched by what you share Adam of the deep friendship Serge offered you and all of us equally.. Your gift of a dozen red roses from one man to another, intimate, loving, open, pure delight.

  • Reply Esther Andras July 26, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    This is very beautiful in that it shows that it is ok to express the deep love and care we have for each other and not let any ideal or picture rule our expression. Simple and beautiful.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh July 14, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    I am moved by reading your appreciation of the graceful space offered where as a man you could be open and tender with another man, with no need to protect or shy away from the splendour and glory of your full expression. Serge Benhayon has been a true role model in relating to all people with such love, grace and honouring, whether a man, a woman or a child. And oh how every single one of us blooms and blossoms in such a space.

  • Reply Alison Valentine July 3, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    When 2 people meet as you and Serge Benhayon did Adam there is no need for words for everything is felt, and at that moment there is a completeness and a confirmation of love that surpasses gender It was beautiful to feel such tenderness in your blog.

    • Reply Viktoria July 27, 2017 at 9:37 pm

      I agree Alison, my whole life I have seen men and boys be so rough and tough with one another – the banter, the mean jokes, the macho competitions, it is almost difficult to accept that not only men can be this way, but it comes naturally to them…

  • Reply Monica Gillooly June 24, 2017 at 6:31 am

    It is such a gift to meet someone who just meets you as themselves without any expectation of you being a particular way, just accepting you as you are and seeing you always as an equal no matter where you are at or what is going on with you – that is Serge to a T and you’re right Adam it’s easy to call him a friend and he offers that in absolute integrity to all the people he meets no matter who they are. And it’s super beautiful to hear you and Serge’s story and your friendship and how you express it with such tenderness.

  • Reply vanessa mchardy June 19, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    Just simply loved reading this and the prelude to your friendship with Serge and the sharing that regardless of the nature of your relationship with Serge you are always met with the same level of love and openness, that is most certainly my experience. Feeling the level of tenderness you have with your exchange of appreciation of Serge with the roses is really exquisite.

  • Reply Karin Barea June 10, 2017 at 4:38 am

    This is just gorgeous to read. There is nothing here I don’t already know about Serge Benhayon having meet him many times for many years. He lives the absolute beauty we all are. Reading this has reminded me of the loveliness that is meeting people without any conditions, without asking for anything in return, but seeing them for who they are instantly. What a joy it is to be met like this. And what a joy it is to feel how we can all be this way with each other, it’s natural when we get our hurts out of the way.

  • Reply Samantha England May 28, 2017 at 2:35 pm

    Adam I got tears in my eyes when I read the line that said the greatest appreciation we can show Serge Benhayon is to ensure we show the same love in all of our other relationships. This is huge, as in that line it clearly shows us what real love is about, it is always for the all never for just one.

  • Reply Benkt van Haastrecht May 25, 2017 at 12:59 am

    Love reading this in appreciation of the friend that is Serge Benhayon. Even when you don’t know him closely he shows you that you are equal and truly magnificent.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart May 22, 2017 at 6:20 am

    The giving of the roses as you share, Adam, is a beautiful gesture of tenderness and when men are tender it is so graceful and are in grace.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad May 18, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    A very sweet and tender contribution which reminds us all of our true nature and how amazing it feels to be met in absolute equalness, no matter the circumstances. Serge Benhayon is the only person I have met who personifies these qualities without fail, day in day out.

  • Reply Natallija May 8, 2017 at 11:07 am

    The sharing of any gift between men when offered with an openness and appreciation of another is truly a loving and tender act that is far from considered the norm these days. Thank you for writing and break down the beliefs that this cannot happen as we are so conditioned by society to hold back the impulses that we feel to share our love with another. Inspiring reading!

  • Reply Mary Adler May 5, 2017 at 2:28 pm

    Serge Benhayon has shown me how to reconnect to and feel the Divine love of my inner essence. A gift that is with me and growing every day and a gift of love I can share with others.

  • Reply Rowena Stewart April 26, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    “Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. ” A quality that can feel immediately on meeting Serge Benhayon, and one that over time, we come to realise is a quality that never leaves him and therein lies the enormous lesson for us all, a steady resurrection of true relationship that teaches us all, all the time how to re-establish it within our own lives too.

  • Reply Rachel Murtagh April 25, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    This is such a beautiful sharing Adam…not just by your description of Serge Benhayon, who is absolutely everything you say he is, but from the feeling of tenderness and sensitivity you share with us of yourself though your writing. As you write it seems completely natural that you would offer another man roses as an expression of deep, heartfelt love and yet, when we take a step back at the perceived norms this would seem an odd act. How beautiful then to bring the realness of two men sharing and showing their love for one another in this way.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke April 14, 2017 at 5:39 am

    ‘From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.’ Now that is true love.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 24, 2017 at 11:00 pm

      That is indeed true love, and the way Serge Benhayon lives 24/7 with every single person. It is a breath of fresh air in a world that is so dominated with people seeking protection and security above love and relationships. It inspires everyone even when you are just witnessing it, to have a go at opening your own heart to the same depth of love and expression.

  • Reply Rowena Stewart April 4, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Serge Benhayon has established a strong consistency of friendship that has set a new benchmark of love in this world. His inclusive friendship extends to so many countries, lovingly holding the world in his heart and hands with such tender affection, powerful honesty and deep wisdom, there is no-one on this planet who could wish for a truer friend.

  • Reply Michael Brown April 3, 2017 at 6:04 am

    I have never known Serge to be too busy to support someone, even with the gazillion projects he’s involved in, books he’s writing, courses he runs, his personal life, and so much more! Truly stunning to see how much support one man can deliver to humanity.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 22, 2017 at 1:04 am

    I absolutely love this paragraph about Serge Benhayon: “Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. In short, he lets you in. There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do. What you see is what you get. From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same”.

    There have been so many times over the years that I have been in floods of tears when as a direct result of witnessing the unwavering love with which Serge lives, I have become aware of the extent to which I had given up on humanity and have now been inspired and supported to reopen my heart layer by layer.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart March 20, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    As you say Adam, “As a man, it is wonderfully freeing to be met with such intimacy,” as Serge does, and with every man, is a most amazing blessing in this world where it is not traditionally accepted to do so.

  • Reply Rik Connors March 11, 2017 at 10:57 am

    Exquisite touching real expression you write with Adam. I felt your love, equally as you write here through what you offer under your own inspiration from Serge Benhayon, in your work you have completed for me. I was deeply touched and still am to this day. I can call you a dear friend and one I honestly would like to see more often however, our busy lives keep us from socializing at will. You offer something here, that I can, and certainly aware of, bringing all my love through and into my relationships and not holding back anything of any hurt or ideal but offering a service that is Love.
    I love this line “From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.”

  • Reply Harrison White February 28, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Just exquisite, this is the way friends should be. Absolute love thank you Adam.

  • Reply kim weston February 28, 2017 at 8:58 pm

    I’m speechless with a full body of love, this is how I know brotherhood to be, this is The Livingness.

  • Reply Leigh Matson February 23, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    I have never known anyone like Serge Benhayon before, who from across the world is available to all who seek his advice or even just an ear to talk to. All without judgement or a feeling that you are taking up his time, he is there for you 100% even if it happens to be 3am in the morning for him and 3pm in the afternoon for you. The love that Serge Benhayon has for people is not bound by time.

  • Reply Stephanie Stevenson February 18, 2017 at 12:41 am

    What an awesome role model Serge Benhayon is. A man who is super-super busy by most ‘normal standards’ and yet his absoluteness in being fully present with everyone he speaks to, is something I have not ever felt in my life before.
    “I rang Serge one morning. He answered the call, and listened to me attentively with all the care and time in the world”.

  • Reply Stephen Gammack February 11, 2017 at 8:50 am

    What a telling and quite exposing marker of friendship, that someone could know a man so well on such limited time together. That shows to me a way I can live where whoever I interact with there is no show, only a sharing of everything that makes up who I am, a transparency, an ease and a willingness to observe and hold in care other people, seeing their life with understanding of a different perspective. A deep love and compassion for people, I can think of no more rewarding way to live.

  • Reply Mary Adler February 2, 2017 at 4:26 pm

    “For we all crave more than anything to be met; to be seen, to be acknowledged for who we truly are.” Before I met Serge Benhayon I didn’t know who I was and now I do.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 30, 2017 at 4:58 am

      Also through Serge Benhayon’s example I have become very clear about the power, love and the responsibility each of us have in how we relate to others. Does the other person experience “being seen, being acknowledged for we they truly are” or are we adding to the lack of this in society?

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad January 25, 2017 at 7:12 am

    A gorgeous gesture of giving twelve red roses that was preceded by an equally gorgeous and loving gesture – listening from stillness and with undivided attention, without an agenda and in full presence.

  • Reply Luke Yokota January 23, 2017 at 9:13 am

    Love trancends gender. No women can love more then a man and no man can love another man more than a women. Love has no sexual connection other than the intimate and private relationship between two people.

    Love is a word that will be defined and redefined until such a time we associate its meaning with quality and the energy that it represents.

  • Reply Benkt van Haastrecht January 23, 2017 at 8:59 am

    So gorgeous to read this and feel the absolute love that Serge Benhayon shows in every interaction. It is the true love that he shows that inspires me to live this also.

  • Reply Natallija January 11, 2017 at 12:06 pm

    Thank you Adam for bringing so much depth and understanding in your appreciation of a man who has held you with absolute love. Serge Benhayon has had a profound effect on many lives with his unrelenting love of all and his willingness to embody true tenderness that is reflected to all.

    I have never heard of a man giving another man flowers let alone red roses. This blog is a testament of the levels of support you were given by Serge Benhayon to break down the ideas and beliefs that hold back the innate expression we all have as men and women to love one another no matter what sex. A great example of your willingness to allow this level of expression to come through in this blog and for all to appreciate and learn from. Thank you Adam this is evolutionary!

    To be offered all the time in the world to be heard is the quality of connection that is unlimited and offered from Serge Benhyon. Serge stands by his commitment to support humanity and this warm and loving gift shows the depth of appreciation felt by one man to another. An inspiring read for ALL!

  • Reply James Nicholson December 30, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Thank you for sharing Adam, words will never capture the quality of what Serge offers us all, but you have done well here to portray on a very personal level what Serge is like. There is no put on or show, the way Serge is in front of a crowd is the same way he is around a dinner table or on a walk – it is this level of consistency of love he lives with which shows what he presents and lives really is the real deal.

  • Reply Michael Brown December 29, 2016 at 6:32 am

    What a deeply touching blog Adam, Thank you.

    “What you see is what you get” – a perfect description of a man who you see the universe in.

  • Reply Elizabeth Dolan December 6, 2016 at 4:14 am

    Adam, I am so deeply touched by what you have shared here. I am learning to let go of my own guardedness and protection and when I read this I am so inspired to keep going. Reading this has made my day, so thank you so much.

  • Reply Rowena Stewart December 5, 2016 at 4:26 pm

    Awesome testament to the love and friendship that Serge Benhayon offers so many so selflessly Adam, thank you. This sentence says it all: “Now there is something deeply empowering – especially as a man – about being able to be open and tender with another man that has nothing to do with sexuality, but rather is about a pure connection that transcends gender, that transcends our physicality as we know it.” Serge is the master of transcending the physical and gender and connecting to the essence that resides in all of us, a consistent response that never wavers. Hence Serge’s compassion is out of this world, always coming with a clear understanding of the ‘why’ we make the choices we do and hence his wisdom comes 100% judgement free, an extra-ordinary thing to experience and one that lifts us out of our own self judgement and onto the path of response-ability, our true expression that we have avoided for too long. How amazing to have a friend who constantly reminds us of our natural, divine glory and reflects this in full to us, 24/7.

  • Reply Mary-Louise Myers November 27, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    I love your gesture of giving Serge 12 red roses, you made it seem so natural that this will inspire other men to express their love openly with other men.

  • Reply Rebecca Briant November 23, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    I love what you say about the gesture and feeling transcending the physicality of gender and the currently social boundaries we have around how people should interact. There is nothing I love more than to allow myself to express my love of someone openly and with warmth and genuine care – be it leaving them a love note somewhere I know they will come across it, a bunch of beautiful roses or even simple showing care in how I interact with them. There is no greater loss than when we hold back our love for others, for this world needs as much love as we can physically express, the limits of such expression should be explored and exhausted as much as we can.

    For me I have found there to be a level of shyness and akwardness in my exploration of expressing unreservedly the love I have for people – inspired by the love I see in Serge and feel from him, I am beginning to express this in my own relationships.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh November 20, 2016 at 6:27 pm

    It is true, that each person who knows Serge Benhayon considers their relationship as very special, regardless of how long they have known him or the frequency of their interactions. The level of love he offers each person is exquisite. He seems to only see the deepest most divine qualities in people and relate to each person in a way that supports you to deepen your own awareness, appreciation and understanding. And as a result more and more people are inspired to also embrace those qualities within themselves, live richer and more responsible lives, and deepen the level of love they reflect in the world.

    How Serge Benhayon relates to people has been one of the most transformative factors in my life. Wonderfully captured in this paragraph: “Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. In short, he lets you in. There is no guard, no pretense, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do. What you see is what you get. From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.” Most beautiful and honouring confirmation of the truth of who we are. And an inspiration to more open, tender, appreciative and loving with each other as wonderfully shown in this blog.

    Every single person who knows him can call him a close and dear friend – this is a model of a true relationship and unwavering love of people represented by Serge Benhayon.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart November 20, 2016 at 4:13 pm

    “From the moment you look him [Serge Benhayon] in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.” This is an exquisite moment that occurs everytime one meets him.

    What is shared here about Serge Benhayon is so true – he, Serge, is always there. By his example he is the living inspiration for us all of how to live. This is expressed so well here with, “The loveliest thing I have to say about Serge is that the friendship he offers is not done in isolation. For what he offers is the opportunity to experience the same way of being in all of one’s relationships – to experience the same love, the same open-ness, the same trust, and the same intimacy that you experience with him – with all.”

    The intimacy that Serge Benhayon shares with everyone, particularly for men as you say Adam is deeply moving and freeing. The experience and reflection he shares gives us the permission to drop our guards and protection to reveal not only to others but more importantly to ourselves the tenderness and love that at heart is our true nature and being.

  • Reply Monica Gillooly November 20, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    ‘We are in essence born of the same one and true love’ that captures the essence of what Serge Benhayon presents and how no matter what, he offers absolute integrity in all he is and does and he inspires others to do the same. After all, the best way to honour such integrity and grace is to do it with another.

  • Reply Heather Pope November 12, 2016 at 5:20 pm

    The description you give of the openness of Serge Benhayon, the way he is open with everyone, so there are no barriers to being met, to knowing you are being held in equality is also my experience and now a way that I too would like to live. How could I not want that after experiencing how it feels to have someone meet you with no judgement, no expectations and no pre-determined ideas. The quality of being who you are in full, so anyone you meet is met by the you, not the hurts, the fears, the anxiousness nor the guards, but just the love you are is the only way I want to live. I am wise enough to know this is a path and without perfection I now walk each day inspired by Serge Benhayon, along with many others also inspired to do the same.

  • Reply Ester Altmiks November 12, 2016 at 4:05 pm

    Adam I love what you have shared – you showed that men can express their love and grace and tenderness without feeling weak or less masculine – how inspiring is that!

  • Reply Jeanette Macdonald November 2, 2016 at 3:22 am

    Men expressing love without restraint, a rarity for such tenderness to be offered and received with such grace. The world needs more of this.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 12, 2017 at 2:25 pm

      Definitely. The world needs more of such tenderness, openness and grace, which is the true nature of men. Thankfully because of the example provided by such men as Serge Benhayon and Adam Warburton who have chosen to not be limited by the societal images imposed on men about the ‘normal’ way for them to express, and are choosing to connect to and express from their heart in all aspects of life, the trend is changing.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad October 25, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    A very touching and sweet gesture, from one man to another; thank you for your candour. It is very inspiring to know that there are people who are willing to follow their heart and not let themselves dissuaded by what is deemed ‘normal’.

  • Reply Stephen Gammack October 13, 2016 at 3:56 am

    It is deeply touching to read of all the support that Serge gave you Adam, and to know that he gives that to everyone equally, should they ask. But most important is that reflection he offers that says, let other people in, be transparent and open to the love that we can share in all our relationships, expressing how we feel and seeing that being this way won’t hurt us, it will in fact do the opposite, it will allow us to enjoy life more. It seems pretty important right now when we consider the rates of suicide occuring and how we all have a responsibility to live open to being seen by others and being that reflection that says there is another way to live in trust and openness. Might one day all men feel comfortable and open enough to share a dozen red roses with a friend.

  • Reply mary sanford October 9, 2016 at 1:38 am

    I so appreciate what you share here with us all Adam
    “Now there is something deeply empowering – especially as a man – about being able to be open and tender with another man that has nothing to do with sexuality, but rather is about a pure connection that transcends gender, that transcends our physicality as we know it. As a man, it is wonderfully freeing to be met with such intimacy, for it gives us permission to drop our guard, to stop protecting ourselves, and to open ourselves once again to be able to feel the world in all its ugliness, in all its splendour, and know that we will be OK.”
    How Serge Benhayon shares his life in fact how the entire family share their lives with everyone around them has had a huge impact on me, I too am learning how to open myself up and interact with the world again and not hide away from the ugliness. That love is powerful and has the ability to change the world, so if I want the world to change then I must play my part and change; to let down my guard and let love in and let my love for the world out.

  • Reply Ken Elmer October 8, 2016 at 2:48 am

    As a man, I truly treasure the times I have been able to truly connect to another man. To have a real conversation with a man. A real hug. To just be together with no agendas! This has happened more and more in my life with my commitment to just be me. I urge all the men in the world to let down their guard and let the world in. It has been a challenging process but the rewards are beyond expression. Thank you Simple-Living Global and Serge Benhayon for supporting me in this process.

  • Reply Jo Elmer October 8, 2016 at 2:18 am

    I am deeply touched to know that one man can give flowers to another in this pure, simply loving way. I too share Adam’s sincere understanding that “…the greatest appreciation that I can show is to ensure that in turn I show the same love in all of my other relationships…” For in essence, this is the message that Serge Benhayon lives and breathes to share with us all. If anyone, now or in any future time, wants to know who Serge is/was they need only to read what those of us who know him have written about him and what we share about how knowing him has changed our lives.

  • Reply Sandra Newland October 2, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    “We are all in essence born of the one and same true love.” I can feel that you know the truth of this Adam, and I have seen you relating to others with this understanding. Once we know this we cannot judge another no matter what their behaviour is like. We may not condone their behaviour but we do not reject them. By listening with this openness, as Serge Benhayon did on your phone call, a person feels deeply held and can accept themselves or the issue at hand which often seems to dissolve once we gain clarity from the loving reflection of another.

    Adam, this is a great example of true friendship where there is no need, no judgement, just a willingness to listen and be there for the other and I know you would do the same for Serge if the occasion presented itself. In such a situation there really is no giving or receiving – it is just love being expressed and if the other is open then there is an expansion of love which affects all.

    I know of many situations where Serge is totally there for people – you feel held in love and he is willing to respond at any moment to any true need for support. Here is a man who lives with purpose not for himself but to serve the whole. He never gets drained because he has no investment in helping people, and he is no martyr – he cares for himself with the same love that he cares for all others. With one blow of his sword of truth he cuts through all the rubbish to the core and if you are willing to let go of the drama, it brings you instantly back to clarity and the issue diminishes if not disappears altogether.

  • Reply Jennifer Greenham September 29, 2016 at 7:21 am

    Adam your full expression absolutely melts my heart in its tenderness and honesty. What a wonderful example you set in the world, showing all of us that there is another way to be with ourselves and others. Thank-you.

  • Reply Matts Josefsson September 24, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    Great to see how men can share their appreciation for each other with each other. It melts all the shields and hardnesses we might have built up over the years.

  • Reply Maryline Decompoix September 1, 2016 at 4:46 am

    Dear Adam, I have just read your 2 articles about Serge Benhayon. They are beautiful and pure testimonials about the man we are blessed to know. Thank you.

  • Reply Kerstin Salzer August 31, 2016 at 1:10 pm

    I am touched by what you are sharing concerning your friendship and love with Serge Benhayon. The love you have for yourself and Serge Benhayon is deeply felt and it includes everybody. Thank you Adam.

  • Reply Katerina Nikolaidis August 28, 2016 at 7:54 am

    The tenderness you describe of your connection with Serge Benhayon himself is a healing just by reading your words Adam. Men in their tenderness have so much to share with the world– they have the power to melt the frozen hearts of the toughest amongst us. Never was it meant to be that the delicacy and beauty of the rose personifies woman alone. It symbolises the beauty and grace of the one who has surrendered to tenderness they naturally are — men and women alike.

    Such a delicate celebration of the grace and love that Serge Benhayon brings to relationships, to ourselves. Men such as you Adam, not afraid to show the sensitivity and tenderness of the men you truly are is such a joy to behold — the guards drop away, as a woman I no longer feel I have to hold on the the bracing position I adopted years back from the assault of men who had lost their own way.

    What Serge Benhayon brings to the all, that is the whole humanity, is massive, beyond words and beyond our mind’s comprehension. His love and inspiration will continue to ripple through the ages as one by one we remember, all of us, the tenderness, delicateness of the human body, of ourselves that is there within us, our true expression, waiting for us to choose, embrace and celebrate with ourselves and each other, once again.

    Adam, you write with such grace and the way you describe the friend that Serge Benhayon is to all is exquisite — it is exactly how I have experienced my encounters with Serge, which is to be deepky held without an ounce of judgement of sympathy but with all the knowing of the glory we all equally from.

  • Reply Rebecca Briant August 16, 2016 at 4:18 pm

    “And the greatest appreciation that I can show is to ensure that in turn I show the same love in all of my other relationships” – so beautifully said Adam, Serge is such amazing love with everyone he meets, but that is a reflection of all of our ability to be the same love, and having been touched by having Serge’s love and support in my life, it is then for me to reflect that back to others.

    • Reply Natallija May 11, 2017 at 3:06 pm

      Yes the call from this relationship is the point to bring more to others. This showing us all that Serge Benhayon’s teachings are not isolated and shared with a select few but offered with the intention to reflect that potential that can be shared with so many.

  • Reply mary sanford August 14, 2016 at 11:25 pm

    Adam, what you have shared with all of humanity here is so true of Serge Benhayon.
    “That is the most beauty-full thing I can say about Serge as a friend. Whether you have met him only once, or have known him your whole life, he treats you with the same reverence he would his own family. In short, he lets you in. There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his ‘inner circle’ of friends, like many of us do. What you see is what you get. From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.”
    The word that encapsulates Serge to me is reverence, he holds everyone he meets in deep reverence. It is unmistakable and somehow life feels manageable. By reflection, to the best of my ability, I attempt to hold others with the same care and attention.

  • Reply Christine Hogan August 13, 2016 at 5:03 am

    Serge Benhayon loves all people, the level of your relationship to him does not hold any sway, your lifestyle, skin colour, nationality etc. He has made this level of deep love available to all – to you and to me and so we all know it is possible because it is already being lived on this earth right now by him. The profoundness of this gift to mankind is indescribable. Thank you Serge Benhayon.

    This says so much more than the words you have written and brings a ripple effect of love, honesty and healing. To read about two men bringing such transparency, affection and intimacy to a relationship is not something that I have had the opportunity to read about and feel the depth of before in my life – absolutely beautiful.

  • Reply Shami August 11, 2016 at 3:15 pm

    Reading something like this is a real stop moment. The love that Adam Warburton is expressing out to everyone is a gift to have on the internet and in life. He has brought an equal and common ground back to living again, where we can all be where we are at, with no bells or whistles, just with the simplicity of knowing that we are already all that we need to be and that all that we are is the essence of pure love. Thank you Adam for such a heartfelt testimony that will stand up for all of time as the truth about Serge Benhayon and the gorgeous men that you both are.

  • Reply Ray Karam August 11, 2016 at 6:51 am

    I love this website and this is a great description and story of how Serge Benhayon is as a man and friend. As Adam shares, this is how he is with many many people and not just a chosen circle. It is quite unbelievable but I have seen and experienced it time and time and again. As you can also see from the sharing from Adam that no matter what the landscape Serge Benhayon holds the same quality, it can be quite confronting to hear. How a man can (no matter what is said and what goes on around him) still hold an absolute love and care for everything he sees? In time you would think this would be studied as there are many more men and women awakening to live the same quality in the everyday world that Serge Benhayon holds. Thank you Adam.

  • Reply Sarah Karam August 8, 2016 at 5:34 am

    I remember when Serge told me the story of the red roses, he shared it with such joy. The joy was not about him receiving flowers, but because it is so rare for men that are friends to actually get each other flowers. I know you Adam and you are a manly man, a builder and to me this gesture is priceless.

  • Reply Kristy Wood August 4, 2016 at 6:46 am

    I love your sharing Adam and I deeply appreciate what Serge inspires in many and in this case, I adore what I see he inspires in men. I have seen so many men drop their guard to show their deep care and love and not be afraid to hold this back. I had never experienced this from men until I met Serge Benhayon and saw a man who never holds back or hides away the deep love and tenderness he has for people- to be met by this man in this way is truly life changing- from that first meeting my life has never been the same, it has grown richer each day.

  • Reply Susan Green August 3, 2016 at 5:39 am

    Hi Adam, the time and dedication Serge was more than willing to give you, is I am sure, one of thousands of beautiful moments of how dedicated and loving Serge is. Thank you for sharing it. After reading this I breathe deeply and thank God I know this amount of Love in the world.
    This is a beautiful testament to a true friendship and a very real one too. I have seen Serge like this with many people. There is a deep Love and warmth from Serge, just passing him in the corridor and taking one look in his eyes conveys all of this and much more.

  • Reply Nicole Twist July 31, 2016 at 11:55 am

    The graciousness of true friendship is inspiring to feel and the love that you write with is truly felt upon the reading.

  • Reply Aimee Edmonds July 31, 2016 at 2:09 am

    What an exquisite account of the men you both are Adam…. knowing yourself again through the reflection of what Serge Benhayon lives and breathes everyday and then equally being that reflection once again for all those you meet. I love how normal this is to read now, yet if I was reading this 8 or 9 years ago I would have written it off as ‘out of this world’ because I had never felt truly met or understood what true friendship and love looks like. This resonated very much with me – “There is no guard, no pretence, no waiting period before he trusts you enough to let you into his “inner circle” of friends, like many of us do.” I can remember thinking I was so gullible or naive if I just jumped in feet and all and trusted someone I’d just met or to be friends with them. Thankfully I have seen how wrong this belief is and have let it go. We know instantly who a person is and how they live.

  • Reply Ruth Ketnor July 30, 2016 at 12:10 am

    Adam thank you for sharing your beautiful experience and connection with Serge Benhayon, transcending gender and our physicality as we we know it. Confirmed by thousands the openness, equalness, love, and understanding with no judgement whatsoever Serge Benhayon has for all humanity. What an inspiration he is, how to be and live in this world.

  • Reply Gyl Rae July 29, 2016 at 7:52 pm

    Dear Adam

    Thank you for writing this blog and confirming what it is to truly be a person expressing love.

  • Reply mary sanford July 29, 2016 at 3:43 pm

    Adam thank you for sharing this beautiful friendship you have with Serge Benhayon. All of us that have met him have our own stories to tell of this remarkable lovely man. He sees through the layers of protection we all hide behind to the depth of love we all carry in our bodies yet have disconnected too. And it is this love that he teases out from us by opening his heart to us. He lays himself bare to the world. And asks for nothing in return. Too be honest this can be very confronting and takes a bit of getting used to. Serge Benhayon supports us all to reconnect to love and having taken those steps of reconnection back to a love that I had no idea was there. I can say the experience has been the most heartfelt of my life.

  • Reply Matilda Bathurst July 29, 2016 at 12:02 pm

    I am really touched by this article – all of it – it is an incredible testimony to Serge Benhayon and very significantly a re-write of what relationships between men can be. In honouring this, I know, as a woman, how that tenderness lived by men absolutely supports us all.

    • Reply Aimee Edmonds July 31, 2016 at 2:13 am

      Well said Matilda and a very needed reflection of this in our world “….a re-write of what relationships between men can be.”! We are all completely blessed seeing men in all their openness lovingly allowing each other in.

  • Reply Nadine Wolfsberger July 29, 2016 at 2:30 am

    “What he does bring is understanding about whatever situation you may find yourself in, and that is a gift like no other. For we all crave more than anything to be met; to be seen, to be acknowledged for who we truly are. In a world that defines us purely by what we do and who we need to become, that is a rare thing indeed, and such a friendship, no matter how transient, is worth treasuring for all of time.” I love this one and how clearly you expressed this – beeing seen without judgment is indeed a treasure. Thank you for sharing this intimate moment and deep appreciation with all of us. This is huge between men to live this and actually it is so natural as we indeed are all the same in essence – no matter the gender – this blog is free of any ideals and pure love and appreciation as the man you and the one you are sharing about and we all are. Thank You Adam.

  • Reply Mary Bidner July 28, 2016 at 8:13 pm

    My heart opened just as the rose, as I read this beautiful account Adam. It is indeed rare to feel so met – Serge is a wonderful reflection. This is beautifully shared and a gift, thank you.

  • Reply Lyndy Summerhaze July 28, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Thank you for sharing the fragrance of the roses with us all Adam. Serge Benhayon is a truly loving man, a complete inspiration for us all.

  • Reply Andrew Mooney July 28, 2016 at 2:56 pm

    I agree Adam that Serge Benhayon has redefined what true friendship is. One day when I thanked Serge Benhayon for giving me some time to discuss something going on in my life, he said to me, ‘Of course it is no problem Andrew, you are family’. This phrase stuck deeply with me because at that moment I realised that Serge really does treat everyone he meets as family. He has changed our meaning of that word from insular small inward looking groups that take care of their own, even at the expense of others, to the one big human family that we are all a part of.

    You are right Adam that it is a rare thing for two men to express intimately and tenderly with each other with no protection or guard or even discomfort, such is the conditioning that goes on in society that erodes and denies men of their true essence. I have a 5 year old son and from the day he was born he has not had an issue with showing his feelings and being tender and close. So what happens to us as we grow up that changes this? This is definitely something that all men should explore more often and start talking about with each other.

    My experience of Serge Benhayon is that he turned around many of our accepted beliefs around family and friendship. The standard model of meeting people is usually a form of protection and guard, a tentative connection. Then a period of time when the other person needs to prove that they can be trusted, and slowly we choose which people we will let into our small ‘inner circle’ of friends and family, and we basically shut the rest of humanity out. But I have observed that Serge does indeed meet everyone with equality. He does not distinguish between people based on how they are behaving towards him or others, or whether he knows them well or has just met them. Could this be a form of universal love that we are all craving from each other? And could it be that the ‘love’ we claim we have for our nearest and dearest is actually limited and stunted by the fact that we don’t hold everyone else or even ourselves in the same love?

  • Reply Kathleen Baldwin July 28, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    Hi Adam, This is a beautiful testimony of your friendship with Serge Benhayon. Each and every word is full of love and appreciation of this most extraordinary man. Extraordinary only because not many people in this world are willing to open their hearts and let in others in to the extent Serge does. Many are working on this though . . . all who been inspired by this quality.

  • Reply mary sanford July 28, 2016 at 12:45 pm

    Your tenderness Adam oozes of the page and is a delight to feel as it is so heart warming. This blog is such a gorgeous testimony of such a gentle man that is Serge Benhayon. To know Serge is to know and understand that there is love here on earth, so you could say we have heaven here on earth. So if anyone has ever wondered what heaven on earth feels like or looks like Serge Benhayon is that reflection.

    Serge Benhayon is indeed a very special man Adam and you have captured him as the warm hearted, tender, gentle-man that he is to everyone he meets.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley July 28, 2016 at 5:43 am

    “He is the type of friend who loves you so dearly that he is not afraid to tread on your toes in order to re-awaken you to your own grandeur.” And this is what the world needs more of – thank you for the reminder that it is what’s on offer with Serge and what we can offer others.

    • Reply Natallija July 24, 2017 at 10:58 pm

      Treading on the toes with the most loving of treads has been my experience. Nothing but an unwavering support to bring the all that we each have, to offer humanity in each expression and movement.

  • Reply Mariette Reineke July 28, 2016 at 12:52 am

    What a true love story, I loved reading it.

  • Reply Stephen Dooley July 27, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    Thank you Adam, I love what you have expressed, and your reminder of Serge’s constant holding love for all.
    And yes flowers are ever beautiful and sacred, and what a gift they are, yet as men and as a society we have used such words as Petal, Pansy and Buttercup with great hardness and harm.

  • Reply Leigh Strack July 27, 2016 at 7:55 pm

    Adam,
    How truly beautiful to feel not only the absolute love that Serge Benhayon has for you, but the absolute love and appreciation you have for him.

  • Reply Leigh Matson July 27, 2016 at 6:56 pm

    Thank you Adam for expressing your relationship with Serge Benhayon, it brought tears to my eyes as I knew that what you have written I have also experienced not only from Serge but over time with redeveloping a relationship with my body. As you shared, Serge never expresses what we don’t know but that we are equal in expressing quality and as I read about the qualities you have seen and felt in him I found myself nodding equally to have experienced such love and care not only from him but from within myself as well. To voice and bring words to an appreciation of these qualities was beautiful to experience.

    It is beautiful coming back to reading this. How many men can share such a relationship with another man, that is so intimate but as you say, supersedes gender with a complete openness to being deeply tender with one another? A rarity for sure but such relationships are budding and growing from the work and life of Serge Benhayon. It blows every role and perception of how men should be out the window, thank you for sharing this.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke July 27, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    A gorgeous testimony and beautifull to read true love between men. With Serge Benhayon this is so true ‘What you see is what you get. From the moment you look him in the eye, he opens his heart to you, without even asking you to do the same.’ It is also true that when just observed you can see what he brings consistently is something pretty incredible. Not only does he bring understanding but also clarity, truth and love to any question asked.

    Adam this is so beautifull what you have shared, firstly all who Serge Benhayon is and secondly your friendship and relationship with each other. Reading I could feel how I still hold a guard up in my body not allowing others truly in, something for me to heal. Thank you.

  • Reply Joshua Campbell July 27, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    Adam, you have shared an example of what a true relationship can be like. So simple, so deeply loving, and with all the time that is needed to support and care for each other. This is something the world so desperately needs in all of its relationships.

  • Reply Tricia Nicholson July 27, 2016 at 4:27 pm

    Beautiful Adam thank you for sharing the amazingness of this incredible man and his true love and true friendship for all. It is so inspiring and deeply touching to read and know .

  • Reply Sandra Schneider July 27, 2016 at 4:22 pm

    Brought tears of joy to my eyes Adam. You are really inspiring!

  • Reply Liz Parker July 27, 2016 at 11:10 am

    Thank you Adam, for your deeply-touching and exquisite Story of the 12 Roses. I agree whole-heartedly with your experience, as I also recently had the occasion to request Serge’s support. It was met immediately, and with total loving tenderness, that was very evident in my body, as I moved through the meeting the following day. Serge offers the experience of true love, that yes, can be daunting, but is always a total surrendering process of acceptance and realisation.

  • Reply Carmin Hall July 27, 2016 at 6:01 am

    What a beautiful story of two wise and inspirational men who transcend the ideals and beliefs we buy into.

  • Reply Rosie July 27, 2016 at 4:59 am

    Adam, this was and is such a beautiful piece of writing to read. The love that you have for Serge Benhayon can be felt in this beautiful piece of writing. Thank you so much.

  • Reply Anne Hishon July 27, 2016 at 3:07 am

    As I read this, Adam, I can feel the total love for mankind that is held in this beautiful sharing. I can feel the love that is coming through you and Serge Benhayon equally for you are brothers in brotherhood. So divine.

  • Reply Judith Andras July 27, 2016 at 12:40 am

    Thank you Adam for sharing the personal details of your relationship with Serge, which really brings across who this man is and why he deeply touches so many people’s hearts.
    So true what you say Adam, Serge Benhayon is absolutely transparent, he lets you into his heart and allows you to see in depth who he truly is. It is us that need time to let him in and allow everything he offers into our hearts.
    “He accepted the flowers as though it was the most natural thing in the world for another man to do.”
    This is how I experience Serge, he accepts love – when it is genuine and true – without any reservation.

  • Reply Sally Piller July 26, 2016 at 8:59 pm

    What a beautiful account Adam, of how men can be truly tender with each other – breaking the belief that flowers are just for women. They reflect tenderness, which can be felt between any two human beings, regardless of gender, if we allow it. And a true testament to Serge Benhayon and the absolute love and support he holds for all – it is unwavering.

  • Reply Cherise Holt July 26, 2016 at 6:49 pm

    This is a beautiful and deeply touching blog about the essence that I equally know to be Serge Benhayon. Thank you Adam for sharing your experience that, in all its simplicity, is a marker of gratitude and appreciation for every small interaction that anyone has with Serge. Inspiration to live so openly within our own lives and relationships is exactly what Serge gifts everyone with and this simplicity is more grand than any gift that could ever be given to another.

  • Reply Paul O'Hara July 26, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    The way you describe the giving of the roses, Adam, as ‘transcending gender and physicality as we know it’ is pure gold, especially for us men. A beautiful sharing of two most amazing beings. Thank you.

  • Reply Luke Yokota July 26, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    Absolute pleasure to read Adam.
    Demonstrating how a man can present themselves to society. Such a top-notch blog that indeed transcends gender. To appreciate another person let alone man to man is very rare, and is something is described so beautifully in this blog and is a crime it doesn’t occur more often.
    What are the barriers that enable such acts to not occur more often?

  • Reply Bina Pattel July 26, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Thank You Adam Warburton for such a heartfelt sharing here about this amazing man called Serge Benhayon. How often does a man give red roses to another man in this way. It is stories like this that will one day be read by our future generations and they will be left in no doubt that Serge Benhayon was the real deal and even after surgery he is there if needed. This man certainly has no off switch when it comes to humanity.
    This website and all those who work behind the scenes to make this happen are equally feeling the enormous Appreciation as you and I are Adam about Serge Benhayon. I know there are thousands and thousands of stories like this.

  • Reply Loretta Rappos July 26, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    Adam – it was so beautiful to read about your deep appreciation of Serge Benhayon- a true friend, and how he has inspired you and many others to be all that they are as men- tender , fragile, transparent, sensitive and caring.

  • Reply Gill Randall July 26, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    The tenderness with which you write Adam is very deeply felt with each word of your appreciation of Serge Benhayon, an example for us all to feel for our every interaction, thank you.

  • Reply Christine Hogan July 26, 2016 at 3:23 pm

    Your article touches me deeply and I know it is through the simplicity with which you have expressed your love and understanding of Serge Benhayon. Love is not complicated. It is open, trusting and ever present. Serge Benhayon is an open book and holds the reflection of love that he sees so simply in all others. Thank you for sharing the ’12 Red Roses’.

  • Reply Jody Bladin July 26, 2016 at 2:15 pm

    Wow….So beautiful, what you have shared here Adam, with us all. Your story opens up the doorway for all men…….for them to realise it is okay, to express your feelings openly, with each other and to express your deep appreciation for each other. Thank you Adam.

  • Reply Mary Adler July 26, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    Beautiful Adam. If we feel to offer a gift of roses to another in appreciation of who they are this has nothing to do with gender but an expression of a deeper connection and love.

  • Reply Valerie Hogarth July 26, 2016 at 11:40 am

    What a delight to read of the deep loving friendship shared between Adam and Serge being shown, man to man, in such a beautiful way …the gift of Loving Understanding returned by the gift of Roses ! Wonderful.

  • Reply jeanette July 26, 2016 at 7:04 am

    “He is the type of friend who lays not one ounce of judgment for the choices you may make in life, whatever choices they may be or may have been.” It is an amazing thing to be completely accepted for who you are, despite what your choices have been or still are, and this is what Serge offered me too the first time I met him. As you say Adam, it is what he brings to everyone he meets, an enormous, open, accepting heart.

  • Reply Victoria Warburton July 26, 2016 at 6:50 am

    As the wife of the writer of this piece, I can only attest to the depth of friendship, love and grace that Serge Benhayon brings to not only my husband’s life, but mine also. This story is a poignant example of a man who’s love is there for all, told by a man whose heart was deeply touched, humbled and inspired, that another man could simply be there for him in such capacity.
    Serge Benhayon offers immense presence and support to many in the way here described – complete honouring, no pandering – in short true love and understanding. Yet I wonder how many appreciate him back, as personally as my husband did?
    How different our world would be, if such relationships were the ‘norm’… and we all appreciated and held each other so.

  • Reply Arianne Kasi July 26, 2016 at 6:47 am

    I absolutely loved this testimonial Adam – thank you. I have only but experienced the same with Serge Benhayon. There is a quality you write in that just makes me surrender – appreciating the absolute grandness that Serge Benhayon represents and offers us all. It is a blessing to have such men in my life, reflecting that no gender, issue or personality can separate us.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 10, 2018 at 6:33 am

      I find the same about the unwavering way Serge Benhayon relates to everyone seeing the equal love that flows within them (regardless of how much or how little of this love is outwardly expressed by the person), the depth of honouring and appreciation, and the absolute love with which every person is held. These are all precious markers of how every one of us could be in relationship to one another. And the beauty of it is such expression has ripple effects, so loads of people are like me and you deeply inspired and this way of being is spreading across the globe.

  • Reply Shevon Simon July 26, 2016 at 6:34 am

    I agree with you Adam. Whilst my interactions with Serge have not been as frequent and I have known him for less time, every word you write is my experience and that of so many others. Serge Benhayon is ALWAYS so patient, loving and understanding with himself and EVERYONE. I regard him as a dear friend as I know that I can tell Serge anything and know I will not be judged. This has inspired me to change my behaviour. There have been many times where I’ll contemplate how Serge has been with me when I have found life difficult especially when I am finding it hard to understand others or I am being judgemental. Without copying Serge or trying to be perfect, what it always brings me back to is that I know that there is a more loving and understanding way to behave. When I step back and allow that wisdom to guide me, it diffuses any tension in relationships. It is because of Serge Benhayon and the way that he has treated me that I have been able to open up to people again, let them in and be a much more loving and committed friend, sister, daughter, colleague and fellow human being in the world. Just today I spoke with a gentleman on the tube. He was amazed at my openness and he asked me why I was like that with him. My reply – ‘Because you are important.’ That’s the difference Serge Benhayon has inspired.

    • Reply Natallija February 19, 2017 at 10:24 am

      I agree Shevon. What stood out with my first meeting with Serge Benhayon was his HUGE level of understanding and patience for everyone. Not one is ever ignored or dismissed and there is a level of humbleness that is felt in his words that holds you in equalness with every word that is shared. This blog Adam is are great reminder that the appreciation that you have felt for Serge Benhayon is being shared in words but felt by many more with the deep levels of joy that was shared in the exchange of the roses.

  • Reply Jennifer Smith July 26, 2016 at 5:25 am

    Adam what you have written here is exquisitely beautiful, with such care, consideration and such a deep appreciation.

  • Reply Nicola Lessing July 26, 2016 at 5:13 am

    Beautiful sharing Adam and by some miracle thousands (including myself) can equally share every day stories of all that Serge so lovingly and graciously offers in true service to all equally. Serge Benhayon is certainly the truest friend you could ever have and lives in my heart. Through his living example he has shown me what it is to be a true friend and I in turn have become a friend to many and that keeps growing.
    To be met by true love (which has not one ounce of emotion and can actually be quite uncomfortable at times) is the most deeply healing, nourishing and infectious thing ever. Serge through living who he truly is reflects who I truly am and inspires me to let go of all that is not me. Who we all are at essence is love and that is what we crave. To feel that is such a great joy, can bring up the grief of living so far away from that and expose all the ways we avoid it. Some people don’t like what they see about themselves and can actually get quite enraged, jealous and destructive, some say great but not for me right now and others are totally inspired to reconnect to that love in themselves.

  • Reply Suzanne Anderssen July 26, 2016 at 5:03 am

    Indeed exquisite Adam, for another man to receive flowers, gifts, anything really, with such an openness. So often giving is laced with expectation in return or guilt to return by the receiver. And from man to man, there would be some who would think that is just odd! But imagine if we all could do this, give and receive friendship with open arms, hearts and eyes? That there would be true beauty and would be an enormous marker on the quality of human relationships.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley July 26, 2016 at 5:02 am

    Dear Adam, what a gift you are as well. I am fortunate to know you and Serge Benhayon – both not well personally but enough to know how natural this event you shared with us is. But if I remove my personal knowledge of you both, it could feel very unnatural in our current world for a builder man to give a dozen roses to a teacher man. This is what I love about Serge Benhayon and men such as yourself, that you are showing men another way to be in this world. To allow your grace and tenderness to be shared and that it does not make you less ‘manly’ as currently is perceived. Keep up the amazing work. Love, Sarah

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh February 5, 2017 at 7:45 am

      Indeed Sarah it is a joy witnessing such expression of appreciation, grace and tenderness between men. It shows a gorgeous depth and openness in men that seems to have been hidden for a long time.

  • Reply Candida Rudd July 25, 2016 at 11:55 pm

    This is so beautiful to read Adam. Serge is a special man indeed, in the way that he is especially in making you feel you are all that too.

  • Reply Esther Auf der Maur July 25, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    What a beautiful account of what it is like to be a friend of Serge Benhayon. Thank you Adam for sharing this exquisite story of you calling him in need of a loving ear, not knowing he had just come home from surgery. This reminds me of his birthday this year, and to celebrate that, he was giving so much to all who were present at the Universal Medicine event that was taking place that day – I was deeply touched by his unshakable love for every single person there I could clearly feel, and I’m sure for every single person not there equally so. This man is truly Divine inspiration all the way. Anybody who has the fortune to know him is deeply blessed.

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