Father Figure Friend

The Father Figure

June 12, 2016
Rebecca Briant

Dear Serge,

I met you when I was 9 years old, clutching my teddy bear. I don’t think I will ever forget the day my whole life changed for the better. I met you and it was like coming home. You listened to me and talked to me like no adult had. I remember feeling so open and free to chat and be myself – the shy anxious girl who hid behind her mum around strangers was nowhere to be seen. Just being around you was like a warm hug. I felt completely loved and it felt gloriously natural to be so.

Since that day I have attended your workshops and presentations and despite my age, I felt totally at home and totally welcome – you were never too busy for a hug or a chat. Although I only saw you twice a year, I developed a complete trust in you, and a deep love. I knew that if I ever needed you, you were just at the end of an email.

Our short conversations or brief encounters when you were in the UK were more than enough because you always knew what to say to reassure me, support me, make me feel loved or help me with a problem – it has always been the quality of your time shared and never the quantity that is so profound.

Despite not having my biological father around since I was 3, from the day I met you I have not been without the love, care, support, guidance, affection and respect of a father – for you have been all those things and more. A dear friend and my equal no matter my age.

The fact you live halfway across the world is nothing. You have taught me that love knows no bounds of blood or distance, that it is far deeper than the physical limitations we have created – family should be defined by love and love alone.

You have also never wavered in telling me that I am enough. One of the most important things a child can learn is that they are loved and are worth loving just for who they are. There is no greater blessing a parent can give a child in life than to meet them and love them for all that they are, for in doing so no longer are they a child but a person, with a marker of love to go out into the world with. You have given me this blessing and I in turn can give it to others. I know that if it is possible to love you as much as I do, it is also possible to love myself, and others, equally so.

You have always encouraged me to do whatever I chose in life – that I will master whatever I decide to do. Never once have I felt pressure to choose a successful career, but instead walk a path where I can express my strengths and bring who I am to the world, for you have never not told me that I am capable of great things.

The life lessons and insights I have gained from attending your courses are life changing – literally. I have never once been told what I can and can’t do and how I should or shouldn’t behave. I was given more rules to follow at school than I am as a Universal Medicine student, where there are no rules, just the space to be myself.

What you presented was that in fact, we have the option to make our choices more loving and responsible in accordance to what feels true for us. Your teachings have instilled in me a respect for myself and my body that many parents struggle to give to their children. I am not out sleeping around or partying from dusk till dawn, because your steady loving consistency has supported me to see I am worth more than those choices – that I can go against the socially accepted grain and choose to love myself.

The principle that everything is energy is another life changer for me because as a child I knew this to be true. Finally here was an adult who was talking my language and making it okay to talk about what I was feeling and seeing about the people around me. From the first day that I have known you, you have always encouraged me to trust in what I feel and that has been an amazing gift.

I have also watched your relationships with your children and your wife, the beautiful Miranda. Witnessing the equal love you have for them, and watching how you express that love has shown me what true family and true relationships can look like, and has offered me a marker of what one day my future relationship could look like too – one that is at least love, every single day.

So many of my friends come from ‘broken homes’ and really struggle without the full support of a complete loving family or living between homes. However, despite society’s expectation that my circumstances might excuse me being an angry rebellious teenager, I am quite the opposite. Thanks to your amazing support through emails, workshops, conversations and consistent loving presence in my life, I have been held and inspired to become the beautiful woman that I am today, and all my warmth, maturity, glory and wisdom comes from the level of respect and love that I have been held in.

Whenever times were tough through the tumultuous teenage years, I had your love and support to hold on to, and your love and support has equally held my mum to be the amazing parent to me she has been my entire life. Together both of you have supported me not to grow up and become anything, but to unfold from within all that I already am.

I look forward to many more years with you and your love in my life, as a father and as a friend.

All my love,

Rebecca

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73 Comments

  • Reply adam warburton July 3, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    Father to many, brother and friend to all. There are many who can relate to this story. It is worth celebrating in this man we call Serge Benhayon, for he cuts through the miasma of fog that says life is about family first. What if all were considered family? How our view of the world would change.

    • Reply Rachel Mascord May 13, 2017 at 9:26 am

      Every notion that keeps us locked away in the tiny, isolated boxes we call ‘family’ have been undone by this man. What indeed would this world look like if all did the same?

  • Reply Luke Yokota July 3, 2016 at 1:58 pm

    The love and warmth are just exuberating from this piece.
    A worthwhile addition to complement the commendable, humble and loving man, which is Serge Benhayon.

    It breaks apart the notion of ‘traditional family’, instead glorifies anyone can be family, no matter blood, gender or location. We are designed to live side by side harmoniously so. This letter simply demonstrates the normality that future families will have on a daily basis.

  • Reply Natalie Hawthorne July 3, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    Wow this is a blessing just reading this Rebecca – to know and witness this to be true and to see that it is totally possible to grow up as a teenager and not choose the loveless choices that most are is so inspiring. When we allow True Love into our lives, which is exactly what Serge Benhayon is reflecting to us all, then we are able to live this Love in all that we do and with everyone.

  • Reply Beverley Croft July 4, 2016 at 6:11 am

    Beautiful to read your sharing, Rebecca, I can understand how you feel. What an amazing opportunity you have had in your life, to meet Serge Benhayon while so young, and to grow up with his great guidance and loving care. I am at the opposite side of the spectrum of life, I have 2 sons around the same age as Serge Benhayon, and yet, I can feel the father in Serge in just the same way. To me he is the father that I would love to have had, and I have him now as a great friend. Not that my real father did not do his best, but he did not have the deep love and understanding that Serge holds for us all. Serge is still my father figure.

  • Reply Felicity Latchford July 4, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    I too remember fondly the day I met Serge, the most remarkable man I have ever met, who has a quiet, unimposing but powerful authority on life and why it is the way it is. I am so glad I took the chance to go meet him, nearly 10 years ago.
    A true national treasure.

  • Reply Elena Light July 4, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    What a blessing to the world to have new role models such as Serge Benhayon, his family and friends – rather big including all the students and their families.
    Being at Universal Medicine events and connected to everyone does feel like being with family.

  • Reply Brianna July 4, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    This was so beautiful to read Rebecca.
    Thank you for sharing you, your experience with Serge and the absolutely amazing woman that you are. It is deeply inspiring to feel and read.
    I first met Serge at 21 and the moment I met him, I felt a man of absolute truth, integrity and genuinely.
    Having never really grown up with a father myself, I have been blessed to meet and have Serge Benhayon enter my life. As Adam shared above, Serge is indeed a father to many, brother and friend to all. In my first meeting of Serge I was blown away by his warmth and care, even in a simple handshake . From this moment, I have continued to connect with Serge and the level of support I feel and am constantly met with is beyond words. I feel he connects and supports me to be me in a way that is indeed rare and I hold dearly. He is not blood related, yet I have no hesitance to say that his impact and role in my life is profound. The way Serge is, inspires me in so many ways and I feel truly honoured to know him and equally so his beautiful family.

  • Reply Mary-Lou Reed July 4, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    I love that you are choosing to love and know yourself deeply Rebecca and how this choice reflects in the life you live. You are an inspiration to all and especially your peers. What a blessing to grow up with Serge Benhayon in your life supporting you in this way.

  • Reply David Upfill July 5, 2016 at 3:15 am

    Thank you Rebecca for expressing so beautifully and eloquently what the Love and support Serge Benhayon hold us in means to you. Very moving and humbling.

  • Reply Roberta Himing July 6, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    Hi Rebecca, I loved reading your blog as you expressed your love and appreciation of all that Serge Benhayon is and presents to us all.
    For me it felt like I was held in stillness as I was reading your words, understanding fully what you were sharing and feeling the humbleness and the privelege to be here and to know this man Serge at this time. Thank you for the moment as I connected with you sharing in this deep and true Love.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley July 7, 2016 at 6:20 am

    This was such a heart-filled piece of writing. So delicate yet so strong, so clear and pointed in what you expressed. So light yet with so much depth and so inspiring to read of your experience of being you in this world with the endless love and support from the superb Serge Benhayon.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke July 9, 2016 at 11:19 pm

    Can someone pass me the tissues? This letter is precious and from knowing both the Gorgeous Rebecca and Incredibly Beautiful-FULL man Serge Benhayon, I know all of what is expressed here to be true. It shows everyone a way to be in relationships, to meet people for who there are, allowing them to just be. That it is the quality of the time spent together not the quantity (this is a big one we must learn). I was talking with a male colleague the other day who has 2 daughters, he was also so aware that if they are loved, cared for and appreciated for who they are then they will not seek that outside of themselves to confirm their self-worth. Thank you for sharing this, the fire within my heart has expanded.

  • Reply Suzanne Anderssen July 17, 2016 at 4:06 pm

    How beautiful Rebecca, to be told not to grow up and be something, but rather to let unfold all that you already are. What a different approach to raising children this is, albeit a way that I am certainly raising my own with.

  • Reply Katerina Nikolaidis July 18, 2016 at 8:31 pm

    So deeply beautiful Rebecca, the love and warmth that you have been met with and that you let yourself receive and now live is fully felt in this gorgeous piece.

  • Reply Christine Hogan July 22, 2016 at 7:20 pm

    Absolutely exquisite Rebecca – you are the evidence of a child growing into womanhood and stand on a true foundation of love. To ponder, our world full of children also unfolding within this space is expanding and truly glorious. I particularly love your comment – ‘Together both of you have supported me not to grow up and become anything, but to unfold from within all that I already am’. We can all hold a space like this that is as loving for our children and grandchildren, and to be entrusted in this way is truly an honour and a blessing. Thank you for sharing and in deep appreciation of all that Serge Benhayon lives and models for us to know and re-connect to.

  • Reply Chan Ly July 26, 2016 at 5:44 am

    Thank you Rebecca for this absolutely gorgeous blog. You have inspired me deeply with every word expressed. The love, respect and appreciation you have for Serge Benhayon is incredible to read and feel. The connection and love you have for Serge is so amazing and highlights that love has no boards, it is limitless and the meaning of family has been redefined.

  • Reply jeanette July 26, 2016 at 7:21 am

    Rebecca, your wisdom, strength and “all that you already are” just shines out through your writing, and your photo. Serge has inspired many to connect to who they truly are within and be all that they are, myself included. I fully appreciate his presence in my life also.

  • Reply Judith Andras July 27, 2016 at 12:58 am

    “You have taught me that love knows no bounds of blood or distance, that it is far deeper than the physical limitations we have created – family should be defined by love and love alone.”
    This is one of the most profound teachings that Serge Benhayon shares, a deep love for all and that love has no boundaries. He teaches that through his words but the reason it has such an impact on many is because he is living it as has been shared in this blog.
    Serge Benhayon has touched on a deep longing for fatherly love in me as well, when I first met him. And through him and his teachings and the healing modalities he brought through I have been able to deeply heal on so many levels.
    Thank you for sharing Rebecca! Your blog made me ponder why is it that fatherly love and a father figure can be so assuring and deeply healing? In the case of Serge Benhayon it is the deep connection to God that you can feel within him and that he re-activates in you.

  • Reply Joshua Campbell July 27, 2016 at 5:23 pm

    This is amazing Rebecca! Your words have shown what true appreciation and inspiration is all about. This is what Serge does constantly with all around him, offering a reflection of love and truth that fully meets all that he is with. He is a father to all.

  • Reply Leigh Strack July 27, 2016 at 8:11 pm

    Rebecca,
    There are times where Serge has offered me wisdom like no other ever had, and everytime the feeling is that he holds me as he holds his family. There is no difference. To be loved so completely for who I am is the greatest gift Serge has given me, and as you share to many others who are in his life.

  • Reply Leigh Matson July 31, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    This was beautiful to read Rebecca. No matter when I have emailed or spoken to Serge he has never wavered in supporting me to be equal and never lesser to him and I have seen this level of support given to hundreds of others. This love and support is life-changing and yet equally accessible to all of us, something that Serge doesn’t shy away from sharing.

    As you’ve shared Rebecca, so many young people today are living in a way that leaves them exhausted, angry, lost and out of sorts with life. And here you are sharing the support Serge Benhayon has selflessly given and shared with you and the results are amazing. Such support is not to aggrandise himself but to show that we can all care for ourselves in such a way that it naturally inspires deep care and healing in others. Thank you.

  • Reply Susan Green August 5, 2016 at 5:25 am

    This is a stunning blog Rebecca. I especially loved how you summed up the loving support you have had from Serge and your mum, “Together both of you have supported me not to grow up and become anything, but to unfold from within all that I already am.” We grow up and think we have to be something, and in doing so we loose ourselves in that. To know that you are already everything is something very few are encouraged to foster.

  • Reply Aimee Edmonds August 7, 2016 at 4:57 am

    This is so beautiful to read and feel Rebecca, I love and appreciate the amazing presence Serge holds everyone with and that everyone is held as an equal of who they are. I remember thinking I didn’t give my children enough time and I was very upset and worried about how I was going to find more time with work etc., but when I considered how it feels having only a 1 or 2 moments a year emailing or talking with Serge I realised that how I was seeing ‘time’ spent with my children versus truly connecting was a bit skew-whiff…. which this sums it up beautifully “…it has always been the quality of your time shared and never the quantity that is so profound.”

  • Reply Sarah Karam August 10, 2016 at 7:49 am

    What a beautiful letter, it is so touching. This is all that Universal Medicine is, not a company or a man but a universal medicine that is shared with all, Serge loves everyone like he loves you and then through this medicine of appreciation, the person that is loved, then loves many more and thus this is how a revolution begins, from one loving themselves so much that they are truly able to love another in a quality that is lived.

  • Reply Ray Karam August 21, 2016 at 4:57 am

    Hello Rebecca, this is a very touching story and I had no idea. I am so glad to have a website like this available and to think this story may never have been recorded in this way. It is testament to the work that has been done here. To see a story from a then 9 year old and to see how supported you were from the first meeting with Serge Benhayon is astounding enough, but then to see the ongoing support from this is something to truly appreciation. We don’t know the impact we can have on each other from the way we are. Here we have the very significant support and care given from a man that touches so many. It’s great to showcase these type of things in this way, to record them for everyone to see.

  • Reply mary sanford September 1, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    To be told that we are enough just as we are, I feel is what every child wants to hear. Serge Benhayon conveys to children and adults alike that they are more than enough and all we need to do is re-learn to be ourselves. We are all given the space in the courses and workshop to practice this so that we can take this love that we are building for ourselves out to the world, so that everyone has a chance to feel true love again. This is what is missing in the world and what is so needed.

    Ray’s comment is very true, and thankfully we are writing everything down about this very humble man who is showing us all by reflection that the choices we make matter, not just the big ones but the everyday ones as well. To regain a respect for ourselves and how we treat others. It makes sense to me that if I respect myself then naturally I will respect others. We have all seemingly given up on life and now have a ‘cannot be bothered’ and ‘won’t take responsibility’ attitude. We can all actually see how it’s not working with illness and disease sky rocketing. Serge Benhayon stands out as the one person who is asking us all to reconsider our way of living and offering a possibility of a different way to live if we change the choices we make.

  • Reply Shevon Simon October 19, 2016 at 6:12 am

    Ahhh so Beautiful Rebecca – a very true and real testimony. This is Serge Benhayon. Everything that Rebecca writes is it because Serge lives lovingly in every way and so when you are with him whether it be for a minute or an hour you feel met, you feel full. I always feel supported, loved and reassured when I speak with Serge that I know what to do and what is needed. It’s not necessarily a conscious thought but more a feeling of confidence in knowing where I am going and the steps needed. Such is the power of one person living with Love. Rebecca’s story is a true testament to how a girl can grow into a woman with self-respect when they have a true reflection of a father figure.

  • Reply Stephanie Stevenson November 11, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    Although not meeting Serge Benhayon until my latter 50’s, I can resonate with feeling met and listened to, just as you describe Rebecca. “You listened to me and talked to me like no adult had. I remember feeling so open and free to chat and be myself – the shy anxious girl who hid behind her mum around strangers was nowhere to be seen”.

    Rebecca, your glorious photograph of the beautiful and confident young woman you are today is living proof of the healing received when being met in full by Serge Benhayon when you were a wary child aged 9. Serge is a true and consistent role-model for all in life.

    • Reply Rebecca Briant November 25, 2016 at 2:33 am

      I agree – no matter your age Serge is a role model and inspiration – you don’t have to be a child to feel met and understood, for this is something craved just as much by adults as children. As I have grown up, Serge has always called me to be the loving, beautiful young woman he has always seen in me, never identifying me by my mistakes.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke November 15, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    Reading this again, what stood out for me most was this ‘it has always been the quality of your time shared and never the quantity that is so profound.’ This is a great learning for us that the quality in which we are with someone, even as a customer or cashier in a shop or a fleeting moment passing someone on a street is far far more precious than the quantity of time we are together with someone. For a family can be together for a large quantity of the time during the week… maybe mornings, evenings and weekends if they are at work and school but during the time at home is there a true connection, a deep care and love? Or are the parents exhausted and stressed and the children checking out on devices? There is much to learn from this.

  • Reply adam warburton December 10, 2016 at 7:49 am

    A beautiful expression of how love can be experienced when we gather ourselves in true community. Love is not contained by the borders of what we call traditional family. Indeed, if you sit back and really ponder on it, it does no make sense that we say we can love our immediate family more than another. Sure, we are more familiar with them,and have more reason to say we share common experiences, but love is not something that should be based on such parameters. It is far too grand for that. And that is not to say that we should live in communes, or have multiple partners. I am not talking about such things, for true love does not need such forms of expression in order to confirm itself. Part of understanding true love is to be able to devote yourself entirely to one partner, for in doing so, you start to understand how responsibility is equally part of what is true love. The key is however, once you have expressed such love with another, to be able to express such love to the whole world, and realise that whilst the form of expression may be different (i.e. it is not about sleeping with the world, or sharing one’s actual house with all), true love is simply about opening your doors metaphorically and sharing your true house with all – and by that I mean allowing others to feel that which emanates from within, and not just opening up to those you are familiar with.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart December 14, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    This is a most beautiful testimonial to the limitless depth of love that Serge Benhayon has and how that is there for everyone, irrespective of their age.

    Although I am somewhat older than Serge Benhayon he is not only friend, he is also a father figure for me, too, as he is for so many, whatever their age. He is all the things you say, Rebecca, and more and to everyone equally. A true and utter blessing to know him.

    “My dear friend and my equal no matter my age.” This quality of Serge Benhayon to be the ‘friend and equal’ to everyone irrespective to who they are is such an inspiration to acknowledge, appreciate and emulate that we are all the same, we are all one Soul.

  • Reply Rowena Stewart December 25, 2016 at 6:39 pm

    “There is no greater blessing a parent can give a child in life than to meet them and love them for all that they are, for in doing so no longer are they a child but a person, with a marker of love to go out into the world with.” This is the most essential, fundamental responsibility that every adult on this earth has towards every single child whether they are ‘blood’ related or not. Awesome letter to Serge Benhayon Rebecca and this quote stands out for me because this is how we should all be behaving. Serge has re-established the marker of love for us all, both adult and child. Consequently we are able to re-orient ourselves back to our true way in life, whereby meeting and respecting one another as the fully capable, deeply wise and very caring beings we innately are is the most natural thing to do. You are such a beautiful example of what happens when a child is shown this inherent level of respect and love and your ambitions in life are now founded on a solid understanding of love and responsibility that will never let you down.

  • Reply Mary-Louise Myers December 30, 2016 at 11:23 am

    I have known Serge Benhayon for over 10 years and it still astounds me the way he loves and supports all the young people in his life with the same amount of commitment and dedication he has with his own kids. This is consistent, he always has the time for them no matter how trivial the issue may seem to be, I know no other like him and has inspired me and others to do the same.

  • Reply James Nicholson January 1, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    Well said Rebecca, ‘family should be defined by love and love alone.’ I have known Serge since I was 19 and he has been like a father figure to me as well – he has offered constant love, support and guidance – always being there for me no matter what. Serge has never judged me rather helped me to understand my choices and has helped me to understand life. I used to think what is the point and was largely given up whereas now I am embracing life far more and actually want to be here rather than struggling to get through the day.

  • Reply Matts Josefsson January 15, 2017 at 1:19 am

    That is so beautiful Rebecca, you got me teary. And I agree Serge Benhayon has an ability to be there whenever you need it which I find quite extraordinary.

  • Reply Benkt van Haastrecht January 16, 2017 at 6:28 am

    So beautiful to feel the love that you share with Serge Benhayon and in term with all that you meet. It is beautiful to see the boundries of family shifted, to a more responsible way of the responsibility we all have for all the young children in this world.

  • Reply Bernard Cincotta January 20, 2017 at 5:10 am

    Awesome Rebecca, I too have experienced the enormous fathering energy of Serge Benhayon, as many commenting on this site will testify he holds everyone he meets with the same level of absolute love. We all have problems and dilemmas in life and Serge would never tell you what to do just encourages you to take responsibility, feel for yourself what is loving and let go of the rest. Serge’s deep love for humanity and full knowing of our origins means he understands the human spirit like no other, and can explain the way energy works in the world.

  • Reply Stephanie Stevenson January 26, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    I agree Rebecca – to observe Serge Benhayon in relationship with his family is gorgeous and to see him bringing this same quality to everyone he meets, is absolutely the most inspiring and glorious thing to experience. A true marker of how life can be lived, equally so with all, when living from Love in the way Serge lives and reflects 24/7.
    “I have also watched your relationships with your children and your wife, the beautiful Miranda. Witnessing the equal love you have for them, and watching how you express that love has shown me what true family and true relationships can look like, and has offered me a marker of what one day my future relationship could look like too – one that is at least love, every single day”.

  • Reply Mary Adler February 1, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    A beautiful appreciation of true parenting.

  • Reply Joe Minnici February 4, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    I agree Rebecca, Serge Benhayon is a very amazing man who radiates so much love to all.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad February 15, 2017 at 9:31 am

    A glorious testimonial by a young woman who testifies to the fact that truly being met for who we are is a life-changing event and forever confirming of our essence. And I appreciate the conclusion “family should be defined by love and love alone”.

  • Reply Kathleen Baldwin February 26, 2017 at 6:29 am

    Thank you Rebecca, your beautiful heart felt letter is a testimony to the power of true love and true family. You have clearly demonstrated here that the deep love that constitutes true family is never bound by age, blood or distance but begins when we acknowledge the deep love that resides within each and every one of us. Serge Benhayon knows himself as this love and thus inspires everyone he meets to know themselves in the same way. Some embrace this as you have and become that love and thus inspire all you meet. Others sadly reject this as the hurt they are carrying serves them for the time being.

  • Reply Harrison White March 4, 2017 at 9:23 pm

    This is absolutely beautiful Rebecca. Love can be shared even with those who aren’t family or our parter, for it is this love we crave, an openness and ability to be ourselves in full with even strangers.

  • Reply kim weston March 5, 2017 at 6:38 am

    Beautiful Rebecca, the depth of care and love Serge has shown you can be felt in your words of appreciation. What you share is the true care of this man, a father to many.

  • Reply Stephen Gammack March 14, 2017 at 6:44 am

    The ripple effect of meeting a deeply loving man, how we can use a meeting with someone who is able to relate and understand us, to go out and forge our relationships in the same quality. The same understanding of others and what it is they need to feel safe to be themselves, that we can always offer.

  • Reply Susan Green April 12, 2017 at 7:13 am

    This is a beautiful love letter Rebecca. I too had never met anyone like Serge when I first came to Universal Medicine. The amount of Love he holds people in blew me away, it made such an impact on me I remember being lost for words some days after! This is a lovely example of how Serge is with others, consistency and unwaveringly so.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley April 26, 2017 at 4:39 am

    Dear Rebecca, I was moved to tears reading your testimonial to Serge Benahyon this morning, In appreciation for Serge Benhayon and all that he brings this world, but also to read of a young woman knowing her worth and her true beauty and then living that in this world. Serge Benhayon was the one for you, and now you are the one for others. I feel warmed by knowing that you are out there, showing the world for young women that you can live knowing your worth, and living your beauty (which we all have), especially against the bombarding images that come towards young women these days. Thank you, Sarah

  • Reply Vicky Cooke April 26, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    Gosh it really exposes where we currently are as a society, community and humanity when to love ourself goes against ‘the socially accepted grain of society’! Rebecca what you have expressed here is gold .. you have not held back in any way expressing both your love and vulnerability, and show if we make if about love first and foremost how much this not only supports and nurtures ourselves but also others and this ripple effect is never ending. This is so true ‘You have also never wavered in telling me that I am enough. One of the most important things a child can learn is that they are loved and are worth loving just for who they are.’ Absolutely, it is not about what we do but accepting and loving ourselves for who we are then the rest unfolds. Very Inspiring ✨

  • Reply Mary May 3, 2017 at 4:01 am

    I feel what you have captured is the humbleness of Serge Benhayon, he is quite the most remarkable man I have ever met, as you say he always has time for people from what ever walk of life they come from. And the greatest lesson for us all is to love ourselves and to deepen this love all the time and in doing so heaven will reside in our bodies and as a consequence this love will naturally radiate out to all others so they get to feel love in their bodies too, let it be a constant reminder that we are all the same.

  • Reply Rachel Mascord May 13, 2017 at 9:28 am

    I am so much older than you Rebecca, but you story reads like my own with Serge. He has been my father, my brother, my dearest friend over the years we have known each other. It is as though I finally grew up and blossomed in the light of this everlasting relationship.

  • Reply Andrew Mooney May 14, 2017 at 1:38 am

    To give our children permission to just be themselves and to honour what they feel must be probably the greatest blessing that any parent or adult could give a child.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh August 3, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      So true Andrew. There may be a lot of practical lessons about how to live in this physical realm that is useful to pass on, but honouring our children by giving them “permission to just be themselves and to honour what they feel” provides the greatest foundation ever. Equally valuable for us adults too!

  • Reply Kerstin Salzer May 19, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    Only the first paragraph you describing yourself being around Serge Benhayon when you were 9 years old sounds almost like a fairy tale but it is true, I can confirm this to finally find a person you can trust. And sometimes I feel myself as this 9 year old girl longing for this warm hug but the good news are Serge Benhayon has reflected me how to give this warm hug to myself.

  • Reply Natallija May 27, 2017 at 6:51 am

    I love the quote: “Family should be defined by love and love alone. A far cry from what we can experience family to be. This blog is a simple yet powerful example that family in not restricted to those we are born with – our parents, siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins but everyone that we are willing to commit to developing a loving relationship with.

  • Reply Monica Gillooly June 4, 2017 at 5:44 am

    The ultimate gift to give to any child, the space and confidence to be themselves and to hear your story Rebecca and feel how you’re grown and been raised with that love and care is beautiful; to have had that loving consistency in a father figure as you have with Serge Benhayon alongside the support of your mother and to feel how it’s supported you to be you, and shown you all you are and can be – that is true parenting.

  • Reply Samantha June 6, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Stunning Rebecca, you are an absoulte inspiration to many, awesome to hear the loving support you received from Serge Benhayon and how his inspiration has helped you to claim the beautiful, strong, well rounded incredible wise and down to earth women you are today.

  • Reply Carmel Reid June 7, 2017 at 9:49 am

    It has been so beautiful to see the way youngsters have grown up over the last 12 years, with such confidence and grace

  • Reply Leigh Matson June 10, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    The part about the love you can express to Serge can be equally expressed to all others stuck with me this time. I could feel that deep warmth and tenderness in your words Rebecca. And reflecting on the fact that I can do the same towards the other people in my life chokes me up. There is much more love that wants to come up and out into the world.

  • Reply Katerina Nikolaidis July 21, 2017 at 5:18 am

    We live in a world that has been conditioned by the unnatural notion that love is measured and restricted – and that the family unit is a separate unit to another unit of people – and on it goes. But we are not meant to be in silos and love cannot be compartmentalised. Deep down we do know this because to live in this separated way with our hearts supposedly open to some and closed to most is simply unnatural to what our bodies know to be the real deal… Enter Serge Benhayon, who by his living way shows us that distance matters nought, family blood ties matter nought, cultural differences matter nought. Love is universal and beholding of us all. It is profound to feel a love that transcends all boundaries, physics, geographical etc – but this is what love has always actually been.

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh July 28, 2017 at 5:29 am

      Yes “this is what love has always actually been”. What a blessing that there has been someone among us reflecting this level of love with such steadiness and consistency, and how gorgeous that so many have been noticing and that every day more people are getting inspired to start living the same once again.

  • Reply Viktoria July 23, 2017 at 5:46 am

    It’s actually quite sad to realise that most of the relationships between biological family members don’t even come close to what you describe here, Rebecca – it only goes to show that love is not blood bound!

  • Reply julie Matson July 26, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    What shines through this whole piece of writing is the space Serge Benhayon has given the author to grow and to just be herself, without any sense of wanting or needed anything from her. This is a true example of what parenting should look like, biological or otherwise.

  • Reply Leigh Matson August 25, 2017 at 12:33 am

    The more I unfold what is already within me I’ve gone from relating the Serge Benhayon as someone special to these days as just a dude (a pretty awesome dude at that). So when I read the part about relationships being “at least love, every single day.” I paused for a moment to realise that this is in fact a possibility becoming my normal. Very cool.

  • Reply Danna Elmalah August 29, 2017 at 4:53 am

    Incredible blog Rebecca – so real so pure so deep and so true. Very very touching of the deep strength of love that is now you, chosen to be your way. As what you once observed and received (and still receive and observe) you are mastering yourself – to be in all of your ways your truth. And this is beautiful. Thank you for your inspiration and your sharing with us. I love it, very very love it !

  • Reply Elodie Darwish August 29, 2017 at 5:07 am

    Wow Rebecca, that’s a beautiful testimonial that I know hundreds would agree with. To talk about your experience of Serge from such a young age with such clarity and awareness is inspiring. It’s evident how much support you have allowed in to be able to express so confidently as the woman you are.

  • Reply Rosie Bason August 29, 2017 at 5:46 am

    This is so sweet, to share how touched you have been by Serge Benhayon with us all. My daughter used to come along to workshops with me when she was really young, and now only comes now and then if she feels to and I can imagine that one day, she will look back on it all like you have and appreciate what has been unfolding.

  • Reply Alison Valentine August 29, 2017 at 6:10 am

    Thank you for sharing Rebecca, Serge Benhayon is a father to us all. He has offered support and understanding throughout the 14 years I have known him not just to me, but for hundreds and probably thousands of people across the world. A truly loving, caring and remarkable being, and an amazing reflection for us all.

  • Reply Samantha Davidson August 30, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    As an adult coming back to life as a student of The Way of The Livingness this is something that I have felt myself “You have also never wavered in telling me that I am enough. One of the most important things a child can learn is that they are loved and are worth loving just for who they are.” It is absolutely necessary for children and adults to know that we are loved and enough, and when we don’t, this is when we harm ourselves and others. All the ills in the world come from a lack love for ourselves and the rest humanity, we hurt because we do not feel love, but it is right there available if we are open to it.

  • Reply Leonne August 31, 2017 at 8:31 am

    You are a living example of what it looks like when someone claims who they are. Serge’s support is felt in every step you take and every step you take is s gift to us all. Thank you.

  • Reply Rebecca Wingrave September 19, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    Rebecca, this is so beautiful to read and so different to the way children are usually raised; ‘Together both of you have supported me not to grow up and become anything, but to unfold from within all that I already am.’

  • Reply Elodie Darwish September 20, 2017 at 5:54 am

    How powerful is your expression Rebecca? Solid is a rock. Imagine if we all grew up being supported like this to simply be who we are.

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