Practitioner Relationships

Relationships Re-Defined

May 14, 2016
Heidi Baldwin

I grew up with parents who were divorced and in no way amicable by the time I was 5 years old and so this was my first introduction to relationships. Subsequent observations of couples, including my family, the media and surrounding community, left me similarly disillusioned and uninspired. Granted, I did see the loving elements within the pairings, but overall I was underwhelmed by the not so subtle undertones of frustration, tolerance and comfort that seemed to morph and dilute most relationships into convenient arrangements.

Despite this awareness, however, during my teenage years I began to dabble with the prospect of a partner. I found many deeply sweet companions, yet I was always left wanting for a missing, indefinable spark, so the duration of most encounters was a mere three months or so, thereby avoiding the momentum of dull normalcy and the inadvertent repetition of habitual and mundane behaviours to pass the time.

Inside I had the yearning for something more than the sense of security provided by finding a comfortable accomplice with whom to watch films, eat food and carve out a life.

As a young adult I was introduced to the philosopher and presenter Serge Benhayon. When we talked I felt a deep care, friendship and support I had never before experienced. Feeling this quality, I began to make changes in my behaviour and alter my daily repetitive choices. The results were a drastic reduction in my acne, the loss of over ten kilograms and the complete dissipation of an underlying depression that tormented silently while invisible to most others. Through developing self love, gradually I stopped consuming alcohol, began to refine my diet to omit sugar, salt, gluten and dairy, worked on long held issues of lack of self worth and began to speak out and express more of myself in the world. No longer was I confined by notions of ‘normalcy’ of what it meant to be a young Australian woman from the beachside party, tourist and consumer driven Gold Coast.

Temporally aware of how these choices were at odds with the dominant Australian culture, I resigned myself to the life of a single woman. I shared this ‘capping’ choice with Serge once: he seemed completely unpersuaded, looking me in the eye and said with an absolute and exact knowing conviction that I would be in a relationship. By this time I had observed all of Serge’s sharings come to pass and be proven true. Yet I looked at him doubtfully and thought to myself, “Well, he can’t get it all right,” and dismissively moseyed out of the session completely unconvinced and unfazed.

It was only with hindsight I saw that this lack of real openness to a relationship was due to my protection of old hurts and long held ideals about what a relationship was and how a man should be. Prior to questioning my own perceptions around relationships, I was convinced I needed a burley, bald, muscly Bruce Willis type. Yet closer inspection revealed this was only to avoid feeling and thereby masking how bloated, unfeminine and protected I felt. Thankfully with time I let go of these limiting criteria and instead chose to deal with my negative self-perceptions in place of seeking a partner who wouldn’t bring up my issues.

Fast-forward some time into the future and Jonathan Baldwin enters the scene: a sweet, unassuming, observant and resolute young man attending his first retreat held by Universal Medicine. We got along well and developed a close friendship that lasted years. We enjoyed the openness and depth of conversation possible through our joint interest in Serge’s presentations, creating a level of intimacy in communication that I had not yet experienced. We discussed everything in depth, with a resolve to develop a united understanding of life, our development and the overall splendour the world offers by reflection. With this richness in appreciation and expression, our everyday interactions took on an unprecedented fullness. The mundanity was replaced by an exquisite contentment. There was so much pleasure to be had in walking together, cooking together, watching a film or shopping.

Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon

Serge and Miranda Benhayon

This friendship prospered and was nourished by observing the gorgeous reflections of relationships around us as inspiration. The deep love, care and celebration of Serge and Miranda Benhayon was unmatched in all the world and stood as a testament to what was possible: their consistency never wavering and their livingness always so resolute.

Through the direct support of everything that has thus far been initiated by Serge Benhayon, Jonathan and I express everything we feel without fear of rejection or reprisal. We build ourselves to forever deepening levels of love and true responsibility. We share the most precious friendship and quite frankly, cherish and appreciate each other like crazy. We need neither space from one another nor distance as every moment offers so much.

Jonathan Baldwin and Heidi Baldwin

Jonathan and Heidi Baldwin

I can say unassailably, that from Serge Benhayon’s friendship, support and lived reflection, I am able to enjoy the most profound and solid relationship with a gorgeously articulate wise and committed, slim gentleman with a full head of hair. There is no question that otherwise this would be nowhere near as deep or fulfilling.

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71 Comments

  • Reply adam warburton July 3, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    For those that have experienced the truth of true love in life, it should be claimed in full and expressed in full. Society has a right to know that beyond the wars, and broken down relationships that dominate life as we know it, there is a way of being and living that is the fundamental right and innate nature of human being. It just needs permission to be connected to. This is the revelation that Serge Benhayon brings to the world, and one that society deserves to hear.

    • Reply Jonathan Stewart November 26, 2016 at 4:22 pm

      I whole-heartedly agree, Adam. We need to declare this by example as loudly as possible.

    • Reply Amita May 19, 2017 at 12:51 pm

      Adam I absolutely agree, we need to claim the true relationships we have built with our partners and the reflection of truth as we walk and evolve continues, together. The reflection of relationships are extremely powerful for humanity as there is very little true reflections out their in the word. What Serge and Miranda reflect in there consist true relationship is heaven on earth.

  • Reply Bernadette Curtin July 4, 2016 at 9:29 am

    Heidi your experience of how to have a true relationship is very precious. Thank you for writing about it, I can feel the delicacy and tenderness and true love between you and your husband Jonathan.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley July 9, 2016 at 6:29 am

    “We share the most precious friendship and quite frankly, cherish and appreciate each other like crazy” – this line brought a smile to my face and I must admit the line about Serge not getting it all right made me chuckle as well. Because as you discovered, it was said through layers of protection and it’s easier to say these throw away lines and dismiss what is on offer, than do the ‘hard-yards’ of self-reflection. But look what it can bring – a full headed haired man and life lived with much less protection. Gorgeous Heidi, thanks for sharing. And a gorgeous testament to Serge Benhayon.

  • Reply Leigh Matson July 9, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    The title says it all – Re-defining relationships is something I have also experienced through the works of Serge Benhayon and how he and his family relate and interrelate as a family and with everyone else they meet. Over the years, the past dynamics of relating to my family and others have been continuously broken down and has shown me that relationships can always be rebuilt and re-imprinted. That we play an equal part in contributing to the quality of the relationship. As such, after years of holding back, getting close to another after a relationship in my teens, I have met someone who proves that each relationship is unique and bringing in a previous template to this new relationship doesn’t work. With the support of Universal Medicine I have found that throwing the previous template of how my last relationship went has opened me up to what is before me with this new close friend.

    Serge Benhayon and his family are re-defining, if not completely flipping upside down what the word relationship means. Be it with ourselves, with one other, others, a group, a family, a workplace, customers and clients, people on the bus, nature, the universe, everything. The more focus I bring on the quality of connection, the quality of and in relationships, life has changed so much in that I have found what gets in the way and what expands the love from within and never from another doing something for me or anything being brought to me.

  • Reply Luke Yokota July 15, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    The life we form for ourselves can support or justify the demise of others.

    Serge Benhayon is one such figure who reflects the highest standards of what being in a relationship with people really means.

  • Reply Suzanne Anderssen July 17, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    My own relationship has also benefited by listening to the wise words of Serge Benhayon. Not so long ago my husband was about to go for pretty major surgery when Serge offered to treat him, never having met him before. Usually an appointment with Serge takes forever! But here, Serge was opening his door to a stranger because he knew he was needed. Today, our relationship would not be what it is without me having made the necessary changes to be able to respect myself and my husband more; all learned not from watching Oprah or Dr Phil as I have many, many times, but from listening to the teachings of The Ageless Wisdom that come through Serge.

  • Reply Joshua Campbell July 17, 2016 at 5:27 pm

    I don’t think I had ever understood what it means to have a true relationship until I had met Serge Benhayon and seen such a clear unwavering reflection of love, care, tenderness and joy mixed in with the richness of truth, power and glory in which he lives. When he shares this with all there is no doubt of the Rock and solidness he is that he brings to ever single interaction and relationship

    • Reply Vicky Cooke April 30, 2017 at 3:47 am

      Yep same here Joshua that is because Serge lives what he presents so the truth can be felt with everything he shares and expresses.

    • Reply Simon Williams August 29, 2017 at 2:05 pm

      Could not agree more Joshua, and what is presented by one man is shared quite literally with thousands and that has improved the quality, or shown what is possible for all of us. And so we demand more truth and integrity in our own relationships, and we are able to offer a similar consistency and love. This one man has changed so much in the world, it is truly extraordinary.

  • Reply Christine Hogan July 25, 2016 at 6:47 am

    True relationship is not only possible but the way it is to be. What we are observing and accepting as ‘being in relationship’ has been imposed on us by Society and labelled as ‘normal’. Thank you Heidi for sharing and the reflection you now offer to others of a lived truth of a deeply loving and connected relationship.

    • Reply Natallija May 26, 2017 at 8:04 am

      Yes – the possibility is what often holds us back or brings in elements of doubt. Questioning that this is too good to be true yet the truth is the joy we can all live in forms of relationships. Thank you for sharing that with true relationships the potential is endless and what is offered for the world to see is the marker of quality we all could all live.

  • Reply Judith Andras July 28, 2016 at 12:07 pm

    Spot on what you share Heidi, we truly need to re-define relationships in our society and I too feel very inspired by Serge Benhayon and his relationship to his wife, his family and friends, which potentially includes every single person on the planet. it is great to have role models like him in a time where breaking up and abusive relationships have become the norm and nobody seems to know how to make a relationship fulfilling and lasting.

  • Reply Leigh Strack July 28, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    Heidi,
    Thank you for sharing. I have recently choosen to leave a relationship and know deep within that true loving relationships are a reality that is very possible and your writting confirms it for me even more.

  • Reply mary sanford July 31, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    Heidi, thank you for sharing about relationships. If we stop to think about it, we are in relationships with everyone we meet, from the post man to the checkout person in the grocery store and everybody in between. How we interact with people makes a huge difference. Serge Benhayon has laid down the cornerstone of what a true relationship should be like and he does so with no effort at all. You can tell that the relationship he has with family is very deep and nurturing. It reminds me of how you would tend to a plant by giving it lots of water, plant food, making sure it’s planted in the garden in such a way that it flourishes and by flourishing it reflects back how contented it is. Well, to me Serge is like a gardener. He tends to everyone he supports and encourages, supplies copious amounts of true and tender love and it’s amazing because I have watched how in the 10 years I have known Serge just how many hundreds if not thousands of people, have changed from lack lacklustre plants to thriving and blooming. When I walk into a workshop it’s like being at the Chelsea Flower Show!

  • Reply Susan Green August 10, 2016 at 6:39 am

    Hi Heidi, I was struck by your description of the type of guy you would go for due to your own feelings of self worth… I never saw it like that but it is true. It makes me question that our ‘types’ are based on our own feelings of lack of self worth, so we choose the very things that won’t trigger those feelings. Gosh, it blows the idea of ‘having a type’ out of the water and in fact it limits us to feeling true love that could be standing right in front of us.

    ‘Thankfully with time I let go of these limiting criteria and instead chose to deal with my negative self-perceptions in place of seeking a partner who wouldn’t bring up my issues.’ Just this line says so much about the way in which we choose our relationships that keeps us in comfort so nothing gets looked at. It is funny how we think and have accepted that we have ‘types’ we go for but as you so accurately point out, we choose them so as not to look at our own issues (I have certainly done this) – it keeps everything where it is, but in that it is buried, stagnant and undealt with.

  • Reply Sarah Karam August 11, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Knowing both Jonathan as my brother and you as my dear sister now Heidi, I can honestly say that what you both live in relationship is truly inspiring. Going to dinner at your house is like receiving a healing or attending a retreat of some kind. You are nourished from the inside out, by the meal, the conversation, the music at times, the way the house is kept holds the ultimate regard, crystal clear reflection. Each time I return home after spending time with you both, I clean out a draw or bring more love to my cooking or stare at my husband just a little longer than usual. This is the relationship of the future, the way forward, all or nothing baby, Serge and Miranda have raised the bar and many are following suit, true love catches on!

    • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh August 14, 2017 at 4:01 am

      This is gorgeous how such deeply loving, appreciative and honouring relationships have knock on effect on other people. What a blessing. And a joy knowing that more and more people are inspired by the example provided by Serge Benhayon and his family to start living the same.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad October 1, 2016 at 6:32 am

    This is true inspiration, all the way from Serge and Miranda Benhayon to Jonathan and Heidi Baldwin and thanks to you, out to the world at large. We need to hear that there is another way to live and to love, a true and enormously fulfilling and joyous way that is our birth right.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke October 16, 2016 at 6:19 am

    It’s beautifull to hear how your relationship naturally unfolded for yourself and how you had more love and care for yourself and how this in turn evolved into your relationship with Jonathan. Serge Benhayon is super sincere with what he expresses and inspires me on many levels, including my relationship with myself and others.

  • Reply Jo Elmer October 25, 2016 at 3:45 am

    This story reminds me how very beautiful we all are… and how deeply we are meant to love, understand and be together.

    Before I met Serge I was still repeating patterns of choosing extremely lonely & poorly matched relationships. With inspiration from Serge and the Ancient Wisdom I am instead in my sixth year with a whole and present man who is unafraid to share his beauty and it only gets better as we go. Our relationship is incredibly fulfilling, generous and supportive of who we really are. Our connection and commitment to ourselves, life and each other is deepening and always bringing more love, understanding and awareness out for us to feel and share with others.

    With immense appreciation to the esoteric way being lived, now by so many, thanks to Serge Benhayon. To all the Truly Lovely role models in this world who remind us that there is more to love and relationships than we have been settling for.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke October 29, 2016 at 5:47 pm

    In reading this a second time what really stood out for me is how so many people can suffer from depression without anyone else knowing ‘and the complete dissipation of an underlying depression that tormented silently while invisible to most others.’ What I love and deeply appreciate from knowing Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is that there is no ‘trying’ or second guessing about an ailment, illness, dis-ease, health issue (including lack of vitality) or anything. Everything is known because the truth of energy is known and lived by him at all times, which means you are then able to understand the true root cause of something and then through choice of how we live able to change and heal this completely. This is not something special to Serge, we all have the capability to do this, to live in a way that connects us to truth constantly. It is just a case of if we want to!

  • Reply Stephanie Stevenson November 1, 2016 at 4:20 pm

    Heidi this is a powerful blog with truth and beauty claimed in your writing. What a strong and solid foundation for relationship to blossom and continue to evolve that you and Jonathan share.
    “With this richness in appreciation and expression, our everyday interactions took on an unprecedented fullness. The mundanity was replaced by an exquisite contentment. There was so much pleasure to be had in walking together, cooking together, watching a film or shopping”.

    Serge Benhayon and his beautiful wife Miranda are amazing role-models of living in a way which is true and natural and possible for all. Their reflection offers a solid, loving, purposeful and very REAL relationship that is constantly evolving to be more. They live and walk their talk, consistently appreciating and celebrating each other and others equally so.

    Hear, Hear Heidi. Serge and Miranda Benhayon are beautiful role models offering amazing, but new-normal, reflections to all. They are truly a living testimony to the absoluteness of love 24/7 and the quality of their livingness in a total inspiration.
    “The deep love, care and celebration of Serge and Miranda Benhayon was unmatched in all the world and stood as a testament to what was possible: their consistency never wavering and their livingness always so resolute”.

  • Reply Heather Pope November 12, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    The truth of true love is without a doubt a pivotal change in anyone’s life, and Serge Benhayon is through his relationships with not only his wife, but his children, his grand-children, his ex-wife and her husband, and in fact all those he meets, an extraordinary role model of how to live with love in full. It is through the complete openness of Serge Benhayon we have on earth a role model of a way of living that is love above all else, regardless of past hurts, past ideals and future fears.

  • Reply Ken Elmer November 13, 2016 at 2:02 am

    I have heard that if you truly love yourself, then true love will find you. With support from Simple-Living Global and Universal Medicine I have found what truly loving yourself means and that when you do love yourself, you are presented everything.

  • Reply Leigh Matson November 13, 2016 at 6:20 am

    I never really expected to ever consider being in a relationship couple with another after an experience in my teens. But with the support of the works of Serge Benhayon, I started to see my part that I played in the relationship. Taking this responsibility has taken me out of the victimhood and into a willingness to be open with another. Being open to others has grown my life and that of others. Relationships are no longer just about couples but has expanded, in that I am in relationship with everything in life. Being open to this is life changing.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley November 14, 2016 at 5:50 am

    When I read this line I nodded by head “an underlying depression that tormented silently while invisible to most others.” Gosh I know this well. I lived with this for so long. But through the teachings of Universal Medicine and the inspiration of the Benahayons, this has lessened considerably. And I am aware that it is a torment that many go through and it is indeed very silent.

  • Reply Andrew Mooney November 22, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    Thank you Heidi, this is a deeply inspirational blog. For so many people do settle for less when it comes to relationships believing that that is the best one can hope for. And I used to do that too, until I met my wife, Samantha. When we met, the level of connection and understanding was beyond anything I had experienced before. It was not perfect and we have been working at it ever since then, but there is depth and a commitment to love and truth there that for me should be the basis for any relationship. Meeting Serge Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon some years later really confirmed the love we had in our relationship and how to take it to the next level. Their inspiration continues to this day and has been invaluable for us as a couple.

  • Reply Katerina Nikolaidis November 22, 2016 at 5:53 pm

    This is beautiful Heidi, to know that it is possible to be in relationship where every moment is full, every moment an exuberance of the love you share is what the world needs to know.

  • Reply Rachael Evans November 26, 2016 at 7:21 am

    The power of reflection is undeniable. Each of us hold the ability to reflect what is true to humanity in all our strengths and to also reflect the imperfections too. We never know who is watching and who laps up the opportunity to be inspired. Serge and Miranda Benhayon absolutely reflect true relationships.

    • Reply Jonathan Stewart December 9, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      So true, Rachel, we all do have that ability and responsibility and Serge and Miranda Benhayon provide the perfect role models to emulate.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart November 26, 2016 at 4:20 pm

    So refreshing to read such a homage to relationships. When we drop our protections of old hurts and expectations, or ‘pictures’, of how things should be, it is like taking off a pair of blinkers and then all sorts of possibilities and options occur of which we would never have previously imagined. The world then becomes a playground rather than an obstacle course

  • Reply Elizabeth Dolan December 1, 2016 at 2:52 am

    We are always in relationship with someone, whether that is an intimate relationship with a partner, or the relationship we have with our family members, colleagues, friends or people we meet day to day. Whatever relationship we have we can choose to be open and transparent in them or closed off/guarded and protected. It is wonderful to have role models like Serge and Miranda Benhayon and Jonathan and Heidi Baldwin to show us that it is worth opening up in relationships because of the beauty it brings not only to themselves but also to everyone around them.

    Heidi, I love how you describe your partner. It shown how much you know his essence and in your description of him we also get to know not just him but you more deeply as well. This is very beautiful.

  • Reply mary sanford December 2, 2016 at 6:37 am

    I feel the same way about Serge Benhayon and I’m 60 years old. To find someone who cares deeply about people and that has such genuine caring relationships with everyone he meets from young to old is unheard of. And because we are held in such a way that feels totally supporting, I too have made changes to my life and the depression that has always been with me has long dissipated, there is a certain quality to my life and I love being in it. This is all because of one man’s absolute commitment to humanity to support us all to make those choices that are the turning point in our lives and set us on a different path.

    You have put into words and brought out of the cupboard so to say that fact that our hurts get in the way of having such a beautiful open and caring relationship that you are describing. We all bring our hurts and rejections and other ‘stuff’ to a relationship and clutter it with all these un dealt issues. So is it any wonder the relationship doesn’t last because it was so heavily loaded to start with.

  • Reply Mary-Louise Myers December 2, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    Serge and Miranda Benhayon have shown us that we can have a deeply loving relationship if we are willing to make relationships about evolution not comfortable arrangements.

  • Reply Jonathan Stewart December 9, 2016 at 5:12 pm

    “It was only with hindsight I saw that this lack of real openness to a relationship was due to my protection of old hurts and long held ideals about what a relationship was and how a man should be.” When we can drop all expectations, which are but protections from old hurts, the world becomes the limitless Universe.

    As does the photograph of Serge & Miranda Benhayon express so much openness and love so does yours , Heidi- they convey clearly the truth of what you have shared.

  • Reply James Nicholson January 11, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    Beautifully shared Heidi. I can relate to so much of your story. What is beautiful is that you and Jonathan now get to show others, just like Serge and Miranda, that a truly loving and open relationship is possible.

  • Reply Rowena Stewart January 17, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    Awesome article Heidi. This has to be the biggest joy of studying with Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom delivered via the Universal Medicine workshops. The love that is lived, presented and subsequently revealed in us is what we have all deep down been aching to return to.

  • Reply Mary Adler January 30, 2017 at 3:58 pm

    As Serge and Miranda Benhayon inspire you, so too do you and Jonathan inspire others with the clarity of your relationship.

    Thank you Heidi, a beautiful appreciation of an ever deepening relationship with yourself and your partner with a foundation of true love.

  • Reply Joe Minnici February 4, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Hi Heidi, thanks for nominating the difference between a true relationship and an agreement.

  • Reply Christine Hogan February 18, 2017 at 5:57 am

    Many of us have accepted what ‘being in relationships’ offer and approach these by altering who we are rather than holding the love we are, live it, claim it in full and allow anything that is not accepting of this to drop away. We are the solid and loving foundation from which all kinds of relationship grow. If this became our way there would be no wars, neighbourly conflicts or inner conflict manifesting as illness and disease. The Benhayon Family offer everyday what is possible when honesty, love and responsibility is the way life is lived.

    There is a ‘seed’ or ‘spark’ within each of us that has been hidden under the layers of imposed beliefs, ideals and pictures from outside of us yet the life in this spark never dies, it just waits until it is sparked by someone or something and Serge Benhayon has been this initiator for many people. Everything you are, everything you are now claiming is glowing from within and a beautiful reflection for us all Heidi – thank you for sharing all in this blog.

  • Reply Matts Josefsson March 9, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    Love it, thanks Heidi. One of the last lines I felt to highlight: “We need neither space from one another nor distance as every moment offers so much.” This is very inspiring and what I also feel, why would you need any “youtime” away from your partner for any reason. It feels distant so what you say rings true to me.

  • Reply Stephen Gammack March 12, 2017 at 6:21 am

    A beautiful insight into a deeply loving relationship, and the steps that lead to it. It is so right to not settle for less than the intimacy and deep levels of communication, and appreciation that you have built in your relationship Heidi. And a part that seem to lead to this was not accepting pervious relationships that didn’t offer that depth, for how many of us settle for whatever is on offer, preferring to be in any relationship rather than the fear of being alone.

  • Reply Golnaz Shariatzadeh March 14, 2017 at 7:22 am

    I love the re-definition of relationships. It exudes from the photographs here of Serge and Miranda Benhayon, and also Heidi and Jonathan Baldwin. The joy and sparkle in the eyes which comes with the fullness of a relationship which is about evolution. And what is glorious is that such relationships are never insular and only loving of each other, the love and vitality spills over and embraces every one else equally. Everyone is enriched by a truly loving and evolving relationship.

  • Reply Gabriele Conrad March 17, 2017 at 9:52 am

    A great sharing about how relationships can so easily deteriorate into arrangements, thus dishonouring either partner and leaving them unfulfilled and evermore resentful over time. It is glorious to hear that it can be different, very different indeed and no Hollywood movie or fairytale in sight! Serge and Miranda Benhayon are true role models in this regard and they demonstrate daily that life doesn’t have to degenerate into a morass off normalcy, discontent and boredom. There really is another way.

  • Reply Stephanie Stevenson March 18, 2017 at 12:23 am

    Heidi, this is a gorgeous blog to re-visit and feel the quality that you now live in relationship with Jonathan, rather than being blinded by perceptions, that we feel are ‘right’ at the time, but actually is only protecting ourselves form exposing the buried hurts.
    “Prior to questioning my own perceptions around relationships, I was convinced I needed a burley, bald, muscly Bruce Willis type. Yet closer inspection revealed this was only to avoid feeling and thereby masking how bloated, unfeminine and protected I felt”.

  • Reply Matts Josefsson April 11, 2017 at 3:07 am

    Beautiful Heidi. I think there is a lot of people in relationships that can feel the subtleties in moods but do not feel they have the space or room to express it in fear of reactions. It feels very beautiful having a relationship where everything can be talked about, feels very freeing. Thanks for sharing.

    • Reply Karin Barea June 10, 2017 at 4:58 am

      Yes, I’ve often heard one half of a couple say that they couldn’t possible tell their other half that for fear of their reaction. I wonder how close that couple can be if there are these unseen barriers that cannot be acknowledged or expressed. I know that every time I’ve opened up to a friend or partner and been willing to be open and be honest about any hurts I maybe feeling this has deepened the relationship. And if the other person hasn’t accepted this invitation it’s never a loss because I’ve deepened my relationship with me and they know that I’m willing to go there should they feel differently in the future. But if we stay closed things stagnate and deteriorate.

  • Reply Samantha June 2, 2017 at 6:23 am

    This is gorgeous Heidi, Serge and Miranda are a total inspiration, so many relationships are based on falsities it is really refreshing to see a relationship that is truly honouring. The love you have for one and other can be easily felt, this kind of love can change the world.

  • Reply Karin Barea June 10, 2017 at 4:49 am

    Heidi this is amazing to read. I was struck by your observation that many people merely tolerate each other in relationships and have observed this myself – and been there myself too! What a testimony for letting love in, even when one has been and seen relationships that haven’t been wise or loving, as there are people who have also opened their hearts to love and cherish this in another; a simple science the world could do well to cherish too.

  • Reply Monica Gillooly June 11, 2017 at 8:15 am

    Heidi, what you share and the photos here speak volumes – of what is possible when we let go of limiting beliefs and are willing to address old hurts, of what is possible when we are open, honest and transparent and that love is always there ready and willing when we are , the more we are willing to let ourselves out and let love in the more it all multiples. And I particularly love your deep appreciation of each other and how you are together and what you bring always, deeply inspiring and very beautiful, thank you.

  • Reply Harrison White June 20, 2017 at 5:19 pm

    From observing how relationships start and are on and off, hot and cold since the beginning even in people as young as 12, it’s clear that the word ‘relationship’ needs to be redefined.

  • Reply Vicky Cooke July 2, 2017 at 4:08 am

    its amazing how the pictures that we hold of relationships and such like hold us back and stop us connecting with so many. Far better to let go of the pictures and let the love both in and out ✨

  • Reply Alison Valentine July 11, 2017 at 5:12 am

    I know that before I could have a true relationship with anyone I had to heal my hurts and put aside any ideals and beliefs I had of how a relationship should be. It has only been in the last few years, through the teachings and reflections of Serge Benhayon that I have begun to see what it is to have a true relationship, and it is nothing like the ones that tick the boxes and look good on the outside but are not based on honesty and a willingness to let go of the protection that holds us back from being loving and truly caring

  • Reply Kehinde James July 16, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    I learned from Serge Benhayon that the basis of a true relationship with another was a true relationship with myself.

    • Reply Vanessa mchardy August 29, 2017 at 5:47 am

      Absolutely Kehinde I totally agree, the fact he loved that love for himself iscwhy Serge is such an inspiration to do many.

  • Reply Susan Green August 5, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    Interesting how we think we have a type but that is based on our own level of insecurity and protection and it actually gets in the way of true love.

  • Reply Alison Valentine August 9, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    Our childhood can set the scene for how we view relationships for the rest of our life. We creates a picture of how we should be based on what we have seen in our parents and those close to us, and from there then our unresolved and unhealed hurts control how open in a relationship we are going to be. The absolute love that is felt from Serge Benhayon and his gorgeous wife Miranda can not be denied and are a constant inspiration for so many including myself, who if not for them I would have shied away from the beautiful man that I am sharing my life with now.

  • Reply Sarah Flenley August 19, 2017 at 6:00 am

    There is a lightness and strength in which you write Heidi, peppered with joy and wisdom. This is a great testament to true love, and how inspiring it can be to support us letting go of patterns and behaviours that keep us from not living our true selves.

  • Reply Elodie Darwish August 29, 2017 at 5:34 am

    Ha! I love the openness about the dismissal of Serge’s suggestion that you would not be a single woman forever. I can relate to this, although, like you am now much more open to the possibility of a relationship that does not have to be like the many I witnessed growing up, which were less than inspiring. Today, and largely due to Serge’s reflection, I am surrounded by inspiring relationships that completely shatter my old views of them being soul destroying. One less neggy Nancy in the world….thank god!

  • Reply Vanessa mchardy August 29, 2017 at 5:45 am

    What I feel in reading this is an assuredness and deep care and love for all, your husband happens to be the person you share this love with in full intimacy but you hold all within that.

  • Reply Simon Williams August 29, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    Delicious Heidi… from the inspiration of one friendship with the deeply loving human being that is Serge Benhayon, you develop your relationship with yourself, and as you open up to the world… so the world can’t help but open up to you. Enjoy your gorgeous relationship, and know that likewise it offers the same inspiration to others.

  • Reply Leonne August 29, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    I was rendered motionless for a few moments taking in the power and beauty of what you have expressed Heidi. Thank you so much for sharing the depth of love that is possible in relationships, I am deeply inspired.

  • Reply Alison Valentine September 7, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    “As a young adult I was introduced to the philosopher and presenter Serge Benhayon. When we talked I felt a deep care, friendship and support I had never before experienced.” Imagine if all young adults were met with the same deep care friendship and support that Serge Benhayon offers to us all. This is what humanity is sorely missing, to be loved for who we are without judgement or recrimination, a beholding love that shows us there is another way to be.

  • Reply Lieke Campbell September 8, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    A relationship where “There was so much pleasure to be had in walking together, cooking together, watching a film or shopping.” is very possible and I still remember how amazed I was when I would feel so complete and so beautiful just walking with my now husband and holding his hand and yes it is still so today. I also deeply thank Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for what they have presented and reflected on true relationships and how there is a totally different way to love in a relationship than we often see around us in society at the moment.

  • Reply Richard Mills September 9, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    There are many ways that Serge Benhayon has touched my life over the past 7 years, The one that stands out for me the most is in the quality of my relationships and this is because he has reflected back to me the fundamental importance of the relationship I have with myself first – that then becomes the basis of all other relationships. It is very simple – when we have a truly loving and nurturing relationship with ourselves, the nature of our relationships with others changes from being something we are seeking love from, to bringing love to. It is then possible to enter into encounters with others with love to share rather than a need to fulfil. It is a really simple equation…but one that in truth is life-changing and in fact, world changing too.

    • Reply Melinda Knights September 11, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Very true Richard, that through the work of Serge Benhayon love in relationships changes from being something “we are seeking love from, to bringing love to.” A beautiful quote, thank you.

  • Reply Melinda Knights September 11, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    Thank you Heidi, your story is redefining relationships, the standards for “what’s possible” out there is pretty low, staying together no matter the difficulties was once (and still is) championed, but now due to divorce people can separate more easily. What’s missing is the true richness that couples can share daily, firstly by living from their essence, and then exploring this together. We have pictures of what love is which always has to come from the other person, instead of two people being love (which is who we are in essence) and sharing that together. This is a great line “We need neither space from one another nor distance as every moment offers so much.” Tolerance is such a commonly held view in relationships especially the longer a couple is together, instead of each day being an opportunity to share, appreciate, and cherish each other.

  • Reply Danna Elmalah September 17, 2017 at 4:53 am

    Truly truly profound – thank you Heidi, wow !
    I love the simplicity of the reflection of what love does when it is lived and observed.
    Equally as love is strong in its message by alifeness, more so then the outspoken words. Words in fact truly arise when they come from a body that lives them. Powerfull this is. This is what Serge and Miranda show. And I am very greatful for that – everyday.

  • Reply Ingrid Ward September 20, 2017 at 3:39 am

    This is such a beautifully honest and inspiring sharing Heidi. And what a supportive article this would be for all young adults who are starting to think about being in a relationship or perhaps being driven by the need to find a partner and wondering why it is just not happening for them. How wonderful it is that you had the exquisite reflection of the relationship between Serge and Miranda Benhayon to learn from …..and now the world has another true relationship, the one between you and Jonathon, to be inspired by.

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